How do i tell my friend she's being stupid?

Question

Ok she likes this dude he is all wrong for her and all he wants is sex i think Cause he breaks up with over and over again.all her stupid butt does is take him back. she wants me to help but all i can tell her is to leave him alone. and she thinks she's "in love"
Plus I'm scared for her cause where in the ninth grade and i think she might be pregnant they have unprotected sex

and she thinks shes ugly and no one will ever love her and all that and she doesnt say stuff like that about herself because she wants attention she really thinks it he even told her she was pretty she told him to not say that cuz its not true. and what i dont understand is why she doesnt see the fact that she is one of the prettiest big gurl at our school and she says that know can love us fat gurls and i know thats not true. i'll find love one day but i dont know about her.

Answer 1

AAAGH! You are talking about ME when I was in high school. I HATE that society has told our young females that skinny=pretty! Dang it! Real women have curves and you can be a size 24 and be BANGIN! It is healthier to be a smaller size, but smaller size does not automatically equal sexy! This girl....OOOG! I want to take her and shake some sense into her! Look at Queen Latifah, Monique, Star Jones before her surgery(Looked WAAAAAY better before when she was thick in my opinion.)...all beautiful successful thick women!
She really really does need to leave him alone. There is usually a good reason that teenagers break up. If he ain't getting some from her, he is probably getting some elsewhere, and I would hate for homegirl to wind up with an STD that she can't get rid of cuz she think she "in loooove".
Imma step off my soap box.
Tell homegirl to check out www.curvychick.com. A community of confident thick women.
Take care, and keep being there for her and loving her, cuz she needs you right now.

Answer 2

Encourage her.

Everything you say about 'leave this guy', 'he's wrong' and all that: She knows.
She tought it up herself too.
You're NOT telling her anything she doesn't know.

So do it the other way around. Tell her she's doing GREAT, that this really is a wise decision and that no-one has EVER experienced this before EVER, so no-one can give her advice on what to do.
It's a good plan to do it without protection, does she have a name for the baby yet?
And at which supermarket will she work when the baby is 2 years old, she's dropped out of school and her loving boyfriend has got three other girlfriends on the side but still drops by for sex every now and then?
Good pension scheme at that supermarket? Because that's where she'll be, 40 years from now.


So, sorry, there isn't a whole lot you can do. If people want to persist doing stupid things, they won't listen.

Answer 3

My friend did the same thing, we might be a little older but when a girl thinks she is in love there isn't a lot you can do about it. Let her know how you feel and tell her in the most respectful way possible. Babies are not easy not matter what your age, and being a freshman would make it even harder. If she doesn't listen then fall back out of he presence but don't completely leave. She will need you soon when he turns out to be the jerk you know he is. Good luck!

Answer 4

Oh girl!
Put it too her in safety first and I love you as a friend.
I told my friend when we were the same age.

I gave her a free ride to planned parent hood, a bag of condoms, spermicide and a bible. Told her that God will protect those that protect them selves and her behavior was out of my control and only God can watch over you now.

I loved her a friend and watched another friend die of aids and another one have children at age 14 and it ruined her chances for college or anything and I didn't want that to happen to her. If I was doing this? Would be brave enough as a friend to point out that there is a better way? Be smart and have some self worth. That boy is a player and you are just a great drum to beat on.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Try telling her that even if she loves him, she deserves someone who will treat her better than that. And honestly, the way he treats her isn't the way someone in love treats someone. Your friend deserves someone who will treat her well and who won't hurt her like that all the time. Someone who does that to you doesn't love you, even if they say they do. Even if it hurts her now to break up with him, think of how much he hurts her each time he does this to her. Why would she want to just be hurt again?

Try to make sure she knows you're there for her and you'll support her. She'll need a friend. As for the sex...that's really dangerous, especially at that age. If you can, try to talk to her about it. Even if she's going to be having sex, she could at least be taking precautions.

She's not going to like hearing any of these things, and that's the hard part. Love does stupid things to people. Just try to be as nice as you can about it and let her know that you just don't want to see her get hurt and are trying to do the best you can for her, but if she doesn't listen, know that you at least did the best you can. Unfortunately, sometimes we can't keep people from making their own mistakes. The best you can do is try to talk to her and be there for her.

Answer 6

When I was in the ninth grade I was in love with my now husand. All I can tell you is to let her make her own mistakes and she will figure out what is going on and make her decision.Believe me if you tell her all he wants is sex shes just going to get mad at you but at least you warned her about it. If shes having unprotected sex more than likely she will end up pregnant. I was 15 when i found out I was pregnant and take it from me its the most difficult thing that can happen when your young. I wish all I had to worry about now was school and homework and boyfriends now im 17 married and with child dont let her make the mistake i did just tell her if shes going to have sex make sure to use protection. hope i helped

Answer 7

If they're having unprotected sex, she'll find out in about 9 months how stupid she's being.

You can tell her until you're blue in the face not to see this guy, but she's going to do what she wants to do until she learns a lesson. She thinks she's ugly and he's telling her otherwise, and of course we all want to hear that we're pretty and attractive. She is just going to have to learn on her own that guys will say anything to get what they want.

Answer 8

If she is truly ur friend tell how stupid she really is especially for not protecting herself. This jerk is waiting just for that to get her pregnant then dumping her dumb a s s as u say. Some poeple need to be hit over the head with a boulder cuz a rock won't do.

Answer 9

Yes tell her she is being stupid. You are much smarter. Go you. She is probably very insecure and deosnt think highly of herself. This guy is taking advantage of her!! He obviously just using her for sex and deosnt really care for her. I'm sure she can do so much better. And when she gets older she is going to really regret the things shes doing. If she is pregnant or gets pregnant by this guy that she is someday going to realise is a pig she will really regret not listening to you.
You need to tell her that you really care for her and that sometimes people outside of a situation can see things the way they truely are.

Good luck with your friend. I hope she listens to you.

Answer 10

Unfortunately most stupid people are also deaf
Especially when it comes to bf & gf .
She sounds desperate for affection & is settling for some dog that will give her a bit for a booty call.
It is nice that you want your friend to be safe, but her hormones are insane and going to ruin her life.
I doubt she will listen to anyone , just end up a baby momma with some STD .
You should start hanging with more friends and just be there to talk when the shiit hits the fan for her.