My husband has a sizeable inheritance that he had before we were married. His youngest son is now going to college in a prestigious private school. He could come home and go for free practically based on his mothers income. In my opinion it's a waste of money to pay for school anywhere when he could go for free. I should add that he refuses to work. At the college he's in he could potentially put a sizeable dent in the inheritance if he keeps calling home for $10,000 here and $10,000 there. Do I have a right to speak up to my husband about this? He has told me this money is part of our retirement.
2007-03-18 18:03:27 · 11 answers · asked by squealy68 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I should add that my husband works for the dept. of revenue. He needs NO help in responsibly taking care of the finances. He does have this weak area with his son though. Also, he is making sure our future is secure aside from the inheritance.
2007-03-18 18:27:22 · update #1
Teenie Teenie Teenie!!! How little you know about me. I am a nurse and actively employed. I have worked for everything I've ever had.... ever!! I am currently furthering my degree as well. I love my husband very very much and we are united in Christ. Your opinion is jibberish!!
2007-03-18 18:42:19 · update #2
Well I agree with you, Yes you have the rights to tell your hubby to slow down on supporting his son, if he is grown and just asking for thousands of dollars like money grows on trees. **** and those kids turn out to be the most ungrateful let's see if your hubby stop being so generous how is his son is going to treat him.. yeah like crap. I think you are on your rights to say something about it because you are his wife and I think he should listen. good luck.
2007-03-19 01:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You ask, do I have the right to advise my husband how to spend his inheritance. The answer is yes. You can advise him on whatever you see fit. However, he has no obligation to take your advice. Both the inheritance and the son came along before you, and it's not up to you to decide how he will treat either one. I'm sure your husband knows there are lower cost colleges and universities out there. He has chosen to pay for the private one. Hopefully the son will start working after he graduates, but there's no guarantee on that either. Instead of trying to dictate how your husband spends the inheritance, you should sit down with a financial planner, and come up with a retirement fund that you both will contribute to. That way, you will feel secure about your future, and your husband won't feel hounded about what he chooses to do for his son. Good luck.
2007-03-19 05:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Son could go to college for free how? IF it would be case of the taxpayers footing the bill, when Dad can afford to help, then I got a big problem with that (because I am a taxpayer, and I have own kids I need to be saving for college for, I don't want to pay for anyone else's kids).
Do you have a right to speak to your husband about this? Sure. You are his wife. But he has a right to tell you that he’s going to do what he wants with HIS money (it’s not martial funds).
2007-03-18 19:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by kp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes u have every right to speak to ur husband on this issue. It depends on the kind of relationship u share with ur spouse. Is open to ur suggestions? And u cld discuss with ur partner in a manner which does not reveal that all that u r interested is the money but the money cld be used more usefully and to be saved for the rainy day or invested wisely. I m sure this attitude and approach will resolve ur problem
2007-03-18 18:16:12 · answer #4 · answered by Ginns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure you get yours. Be careful on how you approach this: its his son and his money. You share a life together and you do have every right to confront him with your fears. Dont try and let him play the money-grubbing woman card on you. Approach him like an accountant.
2007-03-18 18:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by csiders30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be fair that he should find a balanced approach to this issue, bc it does affect you and your future as well. The marriage has obligations just like parenthood. Just try to be fair about it and not get angry - keep an open communication. It should not turn into a contest of wills.
2007-03-18 18:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You cannot make him do it but you can say save a little for the future and don't blow it all. Any smart person will tell him that.
2007-03-18 18:08:00 · answer #7 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are to much, do you here yourself do you no how wrong you are. For one thing it really isn't any of you business where his son goes to school. You are just up set because he isn't giving you any of HIS money. Go to work if you want money.
2007-03-18 18:34:43 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think if he got it before you were married its his business and you shouldnt fight him on how to spend it you are within your rights to offer suggestions and hope he takes them though since you are now a financial partner as well
2007-03-18 18:09:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has told you that "This Money is for Retirement" then yes.
2007-03-18 19:45:41 · answer #10 · answered by MissChatea 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋