Someone please help me.. I am so lost..?

Question

I found out the 2nd week of November 2006 that I am pregnant...I had my period from the 4th-8th of October..



My cycle is 28 days...I had sex with my on and off bf of 6 years on the 16th, 17th, 18th, and 19th of October..unprotected..

Thing is me and my ex got into a big fight and I met up with one of my friends on the 2nd of November and we ended up having drinks and sleeping together..We used a condom but it had a rip in it, and we didnt notice until after the fact...

I am not sure who the father is..Can anyone help me please? My due date is july 11 2007...Please help me :(

My due date is JULY 11 2007, that was going from my first day of my last period..I went for ultrasound at end of February and the lady who did my ultrasound did all the measurements etc, and said my due date is still the same...She didn't change my due date...So does that mean I concieved in October by my ex?

Answer 1

You can buy a mail order dna kit, but that will only halp you to determine AFTER the child is born. They can get baby DNA from an Amnio, but I doubt a doctor would risk it.

It could be either guy. If you don't love either, what's the big deal? If you love one, but not the other, go to him, tell the truth, beg forgivness, and ask him to be the daddy regardless of how the DNA turns out.

You may be supprised at the answer.

If the answer is no, better to learn now and just get on with your life and plan on being a single mom for a while.

Answer 2

I agree with the others, your ex is most likely the father.

The one thing that could mess that up is if you ovulated very late. Is your due date by your last period, or by an ultrasound? If the baby's development was significantly behind at a fairly early ultrasound compared with where it should've been by your last period, then that would indicate the fling was the dad. It was recently found that the everyone-ovulates-halfway-through thing is a myth. Many women ovulate twice - once early, once late. If you recently stopped birth control pills, that would increase the chances of this happening.

I agree also with the poster who said why does it matter? Though I can see that in the interest of being an honest person, it does.

Edit to add - that'd put you at around 18 weeks at the time of the u/s? That's getting a little late for serious date/progress sensitivity, but it should still be a pretty good estimate since we're talking two weeks between the two, right?. Congrats to your ex, looks like he's gonna be a daddy.

All the same, if it matters to you one way or the other, I'd strongly suggest a blood test. Do you know your ex's blood type? If so, along with yours which you should now know as part of you prenatal tests, you should know what types the baby could be, and this when it's born could answer your question. Better too if you can find out the other guy's blood type. Any way you can ask, if you're trying to conceal this from either one? Maybe strike up a conversation 'out of the blue' about blood types and blood donations. This may or may not help you tell which one is the dad. You'd then have to go to DNA tests, which get expensive.

Answer 3

Chances are you ovulated around the 18th of October. Any of the four times you had sex with him were around that time and could have resulted in pregnancy. The 2nd of November would probably have been too late for you to ovulate, as your period should have been due around then anyway (or already late...if you had a 28 day cycle it should have come on the 1st). It definitely sounds like this baby belongs to your on again off again boyfriend! If you're not married, though, most states recommend you get a "routine" DNA test anyway just so you can prove the baby is his if you ever need child support...so you ould go that route to double check. Congratulations and good luck!

Answer 4

with the facts that you have given you are most likely pregnant with the on and off bf. with the timing tha tyou had sex and the last period you were ovulating in full when the two of you had sex. (ovulation starts seven days after the last day of your last period up until seven days before the first day of your next one). also if you had gotten pregnant on november second you probably wouldn't have known that the next week. if you are worried about it the best thing that you can do is get some blood tests done, because if you aren't with either of the men now, they still have a right to know if they are the father of the child you know what i mean? good luck with everything, congrats on your little bundle of joy, and don't stress too much it's not good for the baby. take it all one day at a time honey, everything always works out the way it's supposed to! :0)

Answer 5

If your expected due date is July 11th conception most likely happened on about Oct. 18th or 19th. I work on the OB floor of a hospital and I just happened to have a gestation calculator wheel laying around. If you got pregnant on November 2nd you would be due July 28th. Not to mention that if you have a 28 day cycle you would have ovulated between the 17th and 19th and should have gotten your periond before November 2nd (on October 31).

Answer 6

My son was born on July 11, 2003 (my due date was July 10). I got a positive result on a hpt on October 31, 2002. So, if your due date really is July 11, there is no way that it could be guy #2, you were already about 4 weeks pregnant at that point.

Answer 7

Its about 99% your ex of 6 years. If you have a normal cycle and ovulate in the time that most women do, you would have been ovulating around the 18th of Oct.
Plus it is highly doubtful if you got pregnant Nov 2 that you would have found out the next week

Answer 8

I'm going to wager that the ex is the dad, the due date is pretty early for it to be the man from Nov 2nd, but it is really too close to call. Going to have to have a paternity test. Blood typing may not be enough, but it may be. Ask the men their blood types (including the Rh factor either - or +). Tell your doctor and when the baby is typed at birth, it may be enough to tell. Best of luck.

Answer 9

It more than likely the on and off boyfriends. If your not sure when the baby is born you can get a dna test done to make sure.If it was the friends your baby would probably be due in august instead of july. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 10

i could not understand ur question too well but still, now that u r pregnant and u r not too sure as who the father is u better go see a genetic councellor and get a DNA test for the unborn baby..i am not too sure whether its too safe at this stage of pregnancy .In the mean while talk to ur ex BF and see what his thoughts r about ur being prg and having a baby and if possible talk to the other guy too see and compare u will get to knw by there reaction that who will prove to be a better daddy for ur baby.
u pls take it easy and think positive.
god will surely show u a way out.
Take care and all the best!