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How long can you stand isolating yourself from your friend or family? How do you feel? What they may think of you and react to this behavior?

2007-03-18 17:55:54 · 22 answers · asked by Ashley 1 in Social Science Psychology

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All depends if I need a time out from THEM, or they are tired of ME.

If I find I'm going crazy, it's a good idea for me to just say: "Only you can make this decision. I can't force you to do any thing." (My kids are grown; one still lives with us.) Then I escape to my craft/work area, put all the stress out of my miind, and concentrate on the task at hand.

After a little while, after tempers have settled down, we can have a decent conversation.

One thing that is different in our house is that no one shouts, screams or carries on over dramatically if there's a problem.

I have always encouraged openess and am willing to say to them what things bother me. The "boys," aged 25 & 23 feel very much at ease to discuss what is on their minds if they are troubled.

My husband and I feel that imposing OUR wishes on them will just build up as resentments. We offer our guidance and let them know if perhaps they are on the wrong path. We don't start harping religion or threatening things that we can't deliver. (For instance, when they were young and driving me nuts, I asked my mother what to do with them and she actually suggested I "threaten them by saying I would send them to an orphanage if they don't behave."

I would NEVER threaten them with such a ridiculous notion. My role as a parent is to guide them and help them grow up with the ability to make their own sensible decisions.

And it worked! My eldest is working on a PhD in analytical chemistry and the youngest is graduating as an IT Networking Specialist this spring. I am terribly proud of both of them!

As to how long I could stand to isolate myself and what they think: It doesn't matter. As a family, we've always been close and if one is suffering, the others do too. Open communication is the key.

My advice to new parents is just three words to get well behaved, successful children: "LISTEN, LISTEN, LISTEN."
Without judgment! That means turning off the football game or whatever it is the parent is engrossed in. If you listen to your children, they will always feel comfortable letting you know what is going on in their lives.

If someone feels rotten and wants to isolate, I allow it without question. When that person feels better, he is willing to talk about his feelings and concerns.

And I NEVER make fun of them or put them down for wanting to be alone or having feelings. No sarcastic remarks, just expressions of concern and whether I could be of any help.

Co-operation, compromise and LISTENING are the name of the game.

2007-03-18 18:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by ThisIsIt! 7 · 0 0

As some one who isolates herself from the ENTIRE world some times-
I will often isolate myself for short periods of times, perhaps a few hours. But I have been known to isolate myself for up to several weeks. Typically, I will do this because I have too much on my mind and find being near others will distract me, makes matters even more complicated and will frequently make my time spent with them lack luster.
When I am alone, my feelings vary, based on why I am cutting myself off from the world. If it is to sort things out in my mind, I feel lonely, but calm because I spend that time meditating and pondering. If it is because I am angry with those around me, I spend the first portion angry, but as time passes I calm down again. Another reason I hide away is if some one has hurt me- then I throw my little pity party with the crying and sulking until I get it out of my system.
When I am hiding away, my friends tend to worry, while my family is kind of passive unless more than 3 days pass and I still haven't come out of the woodwork. The reason my family does not care is because I began emotionally isolating myself as a small child, then physically when I began adolescence, so the idea of me being distant is a concept that they are used to. But, regardless of how anyone feels while I am gone, we all feel much happier and refreshed when I come back out. The time I spend apart from those close to me is wholly beneficial in the end!

2007-03-18 18:37:01 · answer #2 · answered by Shel K 3 · 1 0

I've gone long periods of time (days) isolated from friends, family, and people in general. I feel relaxed and I'm in good spirits during the time I'm alone. however, later when I encounter other people again, I get irritable and I find it a little bit difficult to communicate verbally. People sometimes get somewhat concerned about this behavior.

2007-03-19 07:05:30 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 2 · 1 0

Isolation is a storng word- I like to take personal reflection time everyday during which I am not communicating with friends or family and it feels great. I think it's a great opportunity to digest occurances in your life and assess values- it also builds character and helsp to define who you are as a person. My friends think I'm weird because I lvoe to spend time alone and write alot and read alot, but it helps when I see them the next day because I feel far more refreshed and energetic for meeting up with them and makes me value the time I spend with them on a greater level (which as a college student is hard to do after you spend 24/7 with your friends for a good year figuring out life). The same thing occurs with my family- it took me a lot of personal time alone to figure out why I am so grateful for sacrifices made by my parents (which is something they reminded me of daily and as a teenager I ignored always)- away time is important to human survival I think.

2007-03-18 18:03:11 · answer #4 · answered by actuatedtendancy 2 · 1 0

I am currently into over six months of isolation from everyone. I don't feel all that good and I wonder why all of a sudden that contact ended. Those who were supposedly my friends and family could give a crap less. And I was used to being popular

2007-03-18 18:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by mohayrix 3 · 0 0

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2016-10-02 09:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

One hour is rarely enough time to cause significant psycological issues. While extended periods of time can cause depression and other symptoms in humans, often 1 hour of isolation is a relief from the rush of life.

2007-03-18 18:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by allutz3rd 2 · 2 0

One hour??? I need a whole lot more time to myself than that.
I feel good enough. Haven't really thought much about. If I spend too much time doing my own thing, however, I feel guilty that I am not doing something for friends or family.
Don't know what people think about my alone time. I'm sure if I deliberately avoided or turned them down, they would begin to wonder why.

2007-03-18 18:06:11 · answer #8 · answered by howdigethere 5 · 0 0

One hour is not much is it? :D I am used to it. The people that matter know who I am so it doesn't bother them. how long can i stand isolating myself? Probably weeks. Maybe I'm just different! :)

2007-03-18 18:08:46 · answer #9 · answered by AJ 3 · 0 0

i can isolate myself from family or friends ..my maximum is 1 day so that i can have time to relax, i dont feel that i abandoned them. they dont mind at all if i do that because i am a full-time housewife with 3 wonderful kids so there are times that i need some space to relax & think for myself..

2007-03-18 18:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

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