I have this friend who is a boy who is still in HS
and I think he wants to take me to his prom.
the thing is Im 22 and hes 17
also I have a "husband" and a daughter
will this effect them?
do you think it would be wrong for me to tell him that i will go with him because of the age difference?
plz dont pass judgement...we're really good friends
2007-03-18 17:48:57 · 21 answers · asked by preggo&luvinit 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
who said anything about a DATE?
its just prom
i dont know how other ppls prom works but the years i went to prom werent like that.
ppl can take friends
2007-03-18 20:11:26 · update #1
nothing wrong with that if that 17 year old is just your friend and that youve asked your husband if he is ok with it
2007-03-18 17:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Why in the world would a married 22 yr old woman want to go to a high school prom? Leave this poor kid alone. Give him the opportunity to enjoy his life.
I don't think that any husband would appreciaqte his wife going to a prom, or anywhere with a 17 yr old regardless of the friendship. This is a recipe for divorce and plenty of trouble.
2007-03-19 01:02:25 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Have you fallen and hit your head. Come on, you have a husband and child and your going on a date with another guy, weather it's to a prom or a party. It's a date. What does your husband think? Maybe he should get a 18 yr old girl and go to the prom with her, how would that make your feel if that happened? That would be disrespectful to your husband, why don't you find him a date to the prom? Or are you wanting to go because you may have missed yours or want to re-live those days again. Find him a date and help him pick out the flowers for her. That would be a good friend. God Bless and Good Luck.
2007-03-19 00:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by 1TON 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I don't think age is so much the issue as your marital status. Are you divorced or just separated? If you’re still legally married I think dating would just make things uncomfortable at home. Also, depending on the age of your daughter you may have a lot of explaining to do.
However, because of the age difference, if you do go out with him I'd recommend *not* going past first base with him.
2007-03-19 01:09:17 · answer #4 · answered by Joel S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, I would say it would effect the husband and daughter. There is no saying of anything. Your married, he's underage for another. Keep it on a friendship basis before you end up ruining your whole life because of choosing and wanting to go to a prom, long gone for you. I'm not being judjemental, but your a wife and mother. You have to live that world.
2007-03-19 01:00:00 · answer #5 · answered by uniquelyours19 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
In my opinion, you need to do two things, 1. Have permission from the boys parents in writing verifying they know that you are older and he is younger. 2. Permission from your "husband" that it is alright with him to go with this boy to his prom. You don't need written permission in your "husbands" case.
Some may think it highly unusual but personally I see nothing wrong with it. It should be an honor that he thinks enough of you to invite you. Be sure you do nothing that could be construed as inappropriate. Go and have fun.
2007-03-19 01:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try and set him up with someone his age or a couple of years younger. He probably has a crush on you so if you dont go it would probably be better for him. Yes your husband may not be ok with the Idea I know I wouldnt. But if you have any friends that are his age try and help him out and set him up with one of them.
2007-03-19 00:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by firetdriver_99 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The best bet is to tell the truth. If you're trying to shield him from harm, then telling lies will most certainly harm him when the truth comes out.
He's 17, he should be able to understand. It's not a prerequisite for happiness to go to prom, btw.
2007-03-19 00:53:11 · answer #8 · answered by wigginsray 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Whats wrong with you?
How does the boys parents ,feel about it?
How do you think your husband would feel, knowing his wife is out on a date, with a 17yr old?
And what of the daughter. How would she see you ?
And beside, if you get caught. it called contributing to a minor. which is against the law.
And what would his parents think, of that. You could also get accused of sexual relations, with him.
If you are careful, not to.. Even if you don't do anything. The parents may think different.
2007-03-19 00:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If your good friends or he is a friend of the family or something like that,your husband is aware and its a pitty date cause he has no one else to go with then I think it would be fine. If you both like each other and your hiding this event from your husband then yes it would be wrong.
2007-03-19 00:53:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well... I'd go with him as a friend, But first, tell your husband and daughter about it. If they disagree with you going, then I wouldn't. Also, if you tell him no just because of the age difference... those are your feelings and he should respect them so it isn't wrong to tell him if it's an age difference problem.
2007-03-19 00:54:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋