My boyfriend and I got in a huge arguement tonight. He said I can be "a real ***** sometimes". This just hit me right in the heart. We never fight unless I'm PMSing, and I've got REALLy bad PMS. It didn't really effect my relationships with friends and family, but now that I have a boyfriend, it is really taking a tole on our relationship. He gets so angry at me when I get upset, angry ,and emotional at something he did or said. he even gets upset when i get emotional over something that's not related to him. I understand why he gets upset, but I have absolutely no control over my behavor. I'm usually so sweet and can handle myself well. I never over react badly to things... except when I'm PMSing. It is getting really bad.
What can I do to control myself? It happens at the same time every month. My boyfriend said, "why don't you just shut yourself away from everyone when you get like that" but he doesn't understand. I can't seem to do that.
Does anyone have any tips?
2007-03-18 17:27:28 · 5 answers · asked by Alexa K 5 in Health ➔ Women's Health
oh yeah. i was diagnosed with pmdd... and am being treated for that. but it didn't completely cure the problem. and of course i'll talk to a doctor about this. i just really want to hear what other people do to help their irrational emotions. :)
2007-03-18 17:33:53 · update #1
Evening primrose oil works really well for PMS. It might sound kooky, but it's true! I took it for a while and after a month my cramps and mood swings were much less than usual. Plus, it's really good for your entire body system (for circulation, brain function and emotional well-being). It's worth a try, especially if you don't want to treat it with something else (like anti-depressants or birth control pills)
If you're open to trying birth control pills, they can really help with regulating everything that's period-related. I take a low-dose one so I don't have side effects (weight gain, etc), but my period is half as heavy, my mood is stable before my period (as opposed to the fits of crying and angry outbursts before) and I don't get cramps.
If none of this works, tell him to consider you a victim of your own body when that time rolls around, and to remember that the way you may act or the things you might say aren't really 'you'. Really bad PMS can be like being drunk... you can say and do things that have no relation to what you actually feel. Men everywhere have to deal with it :) But we have to deal with their crap too (and it's not even hormone related) :)
2007-03-18 23:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First - if you can go on birth control pills that allow you to have only four periods a year, it's a HUGE help. For me - I was never much of a drinker at all, but on the day or two before my period started, I usually wanted either a drink, or chocolate! One drink was all I wanted; I suppose it relaxed me. I think you should indulge any cravings if you can. I think the most important thing is to be AWARE of what's going on, and that your menstrual period is approaching. I think you also need to talk with your boyfriend and ask for his help during that period of time; if he's much of a boyfriend, he doesn't want to see you upset, and he'll do his best. Ultimately, however, it is your responsibility, and part of taking good care of yourself.
2007-03-18 17:33:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had a couple of Girlfreinds who, like you, were very sweet most of the time, and just in a matter of a day, or hours, became a totaly different person, one who seemed to hate me for just coming by to say hello, or calling at the wrong time, or whatever. I am a peace loving Guy, I never tried to pick a fight, or do anything to irritate or annoy them, I wanted them to be happy and feel good, but they could just turn on me in an instant, for reasons neither one of us could figure out. So I just learned to be the one to leave, untill She would call me later, and tell me she was missing me. Now, I just keep my own place, so we arent on top of each other all the time. It seems to work much better for us.
2007-03-18 17:50:19 · answer #3 · answered by Big hands Big feet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During the first days or so just chill in your room, keep cool. Just try to keep relaxed, sorry my problem is really just the cramps. Just chill on the computer...
2007-03-18 19:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by chrissynb10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not ur fault all girls go though this. if ur in pain take a midol if ur mad talk to him about it and it will be ok. thats all i have to say
2007-03-18 20:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by !*!*!*! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋