Well i have that problem. When i don't talk to some one and that person whant to talk to me but i really can't forgive him or her no metter how bad was between us. I wish i can change that i wish i can just forget and move on but i can't i always feel like i don't wanna get emotionaly hurt again and that's why...Do you have same problem and stillforget some one...
2007-03-18 17:20:31 · 12 answers · asked by Mely 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if someone wrongs you, just because you forgive them doesn't mean you forget all about it and everything is peachy-keen again. Forgiveness is something we do mainly for ourselves, so we're not burdened by the bad feelings. It does not absolve the other person of wrong-doing.
2007-03-18 17:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by a heart so big 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really forgive people. For one, I've had a terrible life, and I usually let people know this. So, if they spite me, they do so knowing that they are piling on top of an already burdensome life. That I can't forgive...
...and then, too, I don't really feel like I deserve to go through any crap, so if someone spites me, it is completely unmerited and unreasonable, and without provocation.
These two factors make it hard to forgive, however... Some mistakes and some offenses are unintentional. These you might consider forgiving. As well, sometimes we can't afford to do without the capabilities of a person who has wronged us, so you might forgive in that circumstance, too.
............If you can afford to hold someones deed against them for eternity, like if you have a lot of friends and can easily afford to drop one like "that," then I would do so if I were you. Why? Because I wish I could do that but can't. I have no friends, or few friends, and I put up with so much just to retain the few I have. If I think about it, there are a thousand upon a thousand things that I could hold against them and their clumsy selves.
2007-03-19 00:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by perfectlybaked 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between being forgiving and being a sucker. You should forgive small mistakes as everyone makes them. You should not forgive someone who constantly and purposely makes mistakes which effect your life or the lives of those around you as then you are a sucker. I have a family member I will never forgive for all the torment and misery she has placed upon my family for years and some cannot understand that as they are not the ones who have lived through it. So I see people who forgive no matter what as idiots.
2007-03-19 00:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by auburn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes I have. Mostly because I didn't want to understand-mostly myself. For your own self being---you must forgive. You will remain to remember that hurt tho. And you know not to let yourself go to certain places with the person. Ever again. Talk to the person, yes, forgive but remember how the situation came in the first place,.. Forgiving yourself for feeling the way you do too, helps. You have to forgive for your own sake. Understanding the why is important, to be able to move on.
2007-03-19 00:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by uniquelyours19 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is for you, not necessarily for the other person. It frees you from the negative energy and feeling bad. By letting go of the anger and hurt, you open yourself up to positive feelings. That doesn't mean you just let people hurt you again. You just make sure you are still willing to take risks and let people into your life. If you give up taking risks, you might as well throw in the towel.
2007-03-19 00:31:14 · answer #5 · answered by spicysuzanne2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a hard time forgiving also. You have to eventually or you can't move on. I will forgive, but I never forget.
2007-03-19 00:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep i have the same problem but whenever i forgive i find it hard to forget.But i always try to use the 3 f's ;
Forgive
Forget
Forever.
I also pray to God to help me do it coz it's really hard.
2007-03-19 05:11:55 · answer #7 · answered by Sirah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like that, but it's not healthy. Forgive them for YOU and not necessarily them. Let go of the bad things.
2007-03-19 00:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by Brown-eyed girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As u rightly said u dont wanna get emotionally hurt agn & so u dont forgive ppl ...its true...but ppl who hurt u never ever bothered if u forgive them or not? coz if they do then they would have never hurt u..so just forget abt them they r not worth u...forgive & forget them & move on...this is what i do...
2007-03-19 00:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by shweta - 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i have that problem too i guess i dont want the same thing to happen twice
2007-03-19 00:24:39 · answer #10 · answered by dee_ann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋