Would you be willing to send your wife and 4 year old son 4 hours away to be with another woman? I'm not sure that is what my husband is doing but that's what it seems like. Would it be worth it to you? To me that is basically giving up his son to be with her.
2007-03-18 16:54:18 · 6 answers · asked by love my life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I already have enough proof (to me at least)....lingerie receipts, going to movies & restaurants when he's supposed to be working, taking my son out to eat w/a female coworker and telling him not to talk about it, etc.
2007-03-18 16:57:06 · update #1
he denies cheating and says it could all be work related but he can't tell me b/c it's top secret government business. (he's in the military)
2007-03-18 17:00:35 · update #2
I would never send my wife and child away for ANY reason.
If you are finding all that stuff then there is defintely something going on.
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I hope that things work out for you and your son in the end. You'll be in my thoughts.
2007-03-20 09:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like circumstantial evidence. Based on what you stated, I would probably be concerned too.
In answer to your question, "No, I would never do that".
Now, what you need to do is confront him. His an outline of a good confrontation method.
1. Confirm the relationship. Let him know how you feel about him without the concept of the issue.
2. Ask him how he feels and if everything is OK.
3. Discuss the items you mentioned in this posting and ask him about it. Don't mention the cheating idea, just the facts. Try to be curious with an open mind. Don't interigate him.
4. Depending on his answer(s) the conversation could go 3 directions. a.) He explains himself with logical explanation(s) b.) He gets defensive and refuses to answer your questions. c.) He doesn't answer your questions and simply seems unresponsive.
5. Then you might: a.) Reaffirm the relationship. Let him know you let your mind wonder, but only cause you wouldn't want to loose him. b.) Do not get involved in an argument. Simply end it with an agreement to disagree. c.) Don't push him for answers.
6. Reaffirm the relationship. let him know how you feel in light of the issue.
7. If you are disatisfied with him answer(s), you might have him checked on by a friend secretly while you're gone. Better to be a fool in the know than an uninformed fool.
Hope this helps.
2007-03-19 00:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you should be top secret too tell him you are going away then leave your son with a friend and go catch him in the act. If you have all that evidence why would you even think about letting him get away with it. I think it is so wrong that he takes your son to meet the other woman and then makes him lie what kind of role model is that for your son.
2007-03-19 00:06:16 · answer #3 · answered by bubbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's in the military, and having an affair, he could lose his clearance as a security risk.
Talk to his commander, but if his unit has a family support group, join it, talk with other wifes, and you might get a better feel for what is and isn't BS.
2007-03-19 00:03:55 · answer #4 · answered by mt_hopper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i would not for i love my wife an kids to much to every do that,,, for i would never want another women
2007-03-19 08:51:27 · answer #5 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's mean to do that...if i had a son...i would want to be with him all the time!!
2007-03-18 23:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by rat_leg danny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋