My Family...Please Help!!!?

Question

Ok. See, I'm 11 years old and my family treats me, well, wrong. I'm VERY sensitive. So a few months ago, I was just starting to play the sax. I didn't know how to put it together so my mom thought I broke it. She yelled at me till I cried. And then, my brother's friends came over and laughed at me cuz I was crying. AND MY MOM WAS LAUGHING AT ME 2!!! So ya. That was one of the worse days of my life. But that was a few months ago. I brung it up last night because my mom hung my sax in my room. So it reminded me. I was trying to talk it out cuz it still bothered me. But she said I was just mad cuz I couldn't have popcorn that night. WHAT!? Then, just told me 2 go to bed. So I was mad about that all day. And my brother!!! He's a late teenager. He thinks he's the boss of me! He always tries to "put me in check". He thinks I'm a bad, immiture, annoying kid. All adults think I'm very mature. Which I am. But he always tries to treat me like a little kid. I'm outta room so I'll say the rest in

the addition detalis. Ok. So one time, we were goin' 2 mc donalds. And he didn't want me to drink my soda in his car cuz he thought I was gonna spill it!!! He said, I know how u dirtied up mom's van. COME ON! Yes. The van was dirty. but that was from when I was a little kid. And from my little nieces. I mean, I'm gonna be 13 next year!!! Little things happen to me that just makes me SO mad! And unfair!!! So what should I do about my family?

Oh, the other day. My brother threw an eraser at me. So when my sister came(same age as my brother) she said something mean to me. so I threw the little eraser at her. It didn't hit her. I didn't wanna hurt her or anything. So it landed right in front of her. She started yelling at me!!! She said DON'T U EVER THROW SOMETHING AT ME AGAIN!!! Then, my brother said, yeah Imani. U gotta learn to behave! I mean, come one! Didn't my brother just throw one at me? And it hit me!!! He told me to leave the room!!! I'm like, this is my house too, I'm not leaving!!! So he said he'd tell mom that I was throwin' stuff. So I left! I mean, come on! And he always used to give me wedgies. And he gave them to my niece.(6 years old) So my niece started giving them to her little sister. I told her to stop but she wouldn't. So I told her, every time she did it to her little sister, I'd do it to her. I didn't want to. But I did. So my brother saw. So as punishment...

he gave me a wedgie!

oh, and I'm gonna be 13 next year, cuz, I turned 11 last year. I'm turning 12 this year. And 13 next year.

Answer 1

hey I am 17 and my family has treated me wrong since I was 3. in every way possible. they yell at me daily for things I did not do, or had no control over. they threw me across the room, and banged my head against the walls. my mom threw plates and glasses at me, and beat me with tree branches. they never listened to me, and often called me stupid (but I got into college 2 years earlier than my older brother. so I proved them wrong on that note). I was worked like a slave by having to do all the laundry, dishes, moping, dusting, and every chore in the house, and I had to put un with a lot more than I can explain here. your situation is tough, but it does not sound like you have had it as bad as I have. do what I have done, just hang in there and wait. if you have to wait until you are 18 and move out for things to get better then you just have to wait. I just have one more year...

Answer 2

Basically, you're a kid.
Some people find you mature?
Take it as a compliment, not as proof you don't have to listen to anybody.
You are also NOT a good judge of whether you are mature or not. That's because you're a kid and you have no idea and no experience about being mature.
So deal with it, stop complaining and grow up.
Oh, and listen to your mother, brother, sister, and everyone else who's older than you more often - and not just when it suits you.

Answer 3

i have a mom just like your mom. always blaming me for stuff i didn't do. the best way i learned to deal with the yelling is to not talk back and try not to look at them. and if your mom asks you a question while she's yelling at you, maybe she is not looking for an answer, cuz whatever you say, she's just going to say that you're making excuses. so, if that's how it is, just don't say anything. and when she's done, just go about your business like nothing happened. same, with your siblings, they are just messing with you to get a reaction out of you. if you just left them alone or something maybe they wouldn't bother you so much.

Answer 4

i dont know what to say. um i guess you could always go to a counselor in school that always help. also you can tried talking to like one of your family member you trust a lot. good luck!! i know how you feel.

here is my advise if what i said doesnt work.

when you go to high school get really good grades so when you graduate you can go study somewhere far!!

get an education desphise what happen, because i bet your brother isnt in college. huh? you work hard, because they are ignorant, that doesnt mean you are gonna be one too?!!

or and lastely. dont get a boyfreind . because that what most girls do. they get a bf and say they love them, and they treat you like ****, and then youll say "he treated you better that your famili"

GET AN EDUCATION. IS THE ONLY WAY TO SUCESS!!! :)

Answer 5

Ok. See, I'm 11 years old and my family treats me, well, wrong. I'm VERY sensitive. So a few months ago, I was just starting to play the sax. I am confussed .anyways yes you are to young .

Answer 6

Well, your parents won't listen to you seriously until you're an adult. I know that from experience. So save it all up, and when you turn 21, hit them with all of it at the same time. Then you can make THEM cry and they'll know how you felt.

Answer 7

I am so sorry for your frustration. There is not much that you can do about your family since (unfortunately) we cant choose our family. I suggest you keep a journal and keep it in a safe place. Writing is very helpful. Your mom does not like to talk about things because, even though she may NEVER admit it, she probably feels bad or embarrassed about her behavior.
Good luck Baby Doll.

Answer 8

Sounds like they are not into your feelings, which are important. Your brother also should show respect. Soon you will leave home.. it will settle. If they don't want to talk about it, you can't do much. Doens't sound fair

Answer 9

Sweety tell them how u feel. Tell them that they are hurting u by the way they treat u. Be honest with them if they dont listen to u keep tryin until they do b-cuz my family they listen to me im 19 but im still the baby but jus try to do wat i said ok sweety good luck n take care

Answer 10

yet another preteen drama ....ok let explain this as best I can family's suck...that's life I was the same way when I was your age soon different things will start bothering u as u get older...I get just ignore my family maybe u should too...or keep trying to talk to your mom till she gets it...good luck!