we r 13 year old band. best friends, rock band, he likes nirvana music and i like the used(screamo stuff) and he wants members i dont want in the band, and i write just about all the music. we hardly practice, hes scared to!
2007-03-18 16:26:49 · 7 answers · asked by bassandvocals-drew 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Music
Just mention your differences and it helps if you can get the rest of your band (if there are any other members left) to say some of their opinions and put it to a vote.
2007-03-18 20:28:52 · answer #1 · answered by Memyselfi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up, leaving or asking someone to leave a band is hard to do. It's like a relationship or marriage.
It is going to be hard, especially since you said he is your best friend, but you have to get through it. List the reasons why - different musical tastes, not practicing, unwanted members/hangers on.
Make it clear it is not personal. You just want a different scene/type of band than he does. I'm sure he'll understand. Suggest that you guys can still jam together, for fun.
I've had to go through this before and it's hard, but if you keep it dragging on, you'll regret not doing it sooner. Good luck!
2007-03-18 23:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by Zd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a good sit down honest open talk. If you guys are a working band, then that is a BUISNESS. If you do most of the writing then you have a say on what is going on. Tell him that the direction you want to take the band is very important to you, and that practice is key if you want to keep working!!
2007-03-18 23:45:14 · answer #3 · answered by kaisergirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you write the lyrics and the music (On ALL the instruments), then it's your creative expression, and you need to surround yourself with musicians that see your vision and perform according to your instructions. However if you do not write all the musical components, then you need to allow your fellow musicians the freedom of their own expression, who likes what kind of music is a personal matter not band business!
If you and your musicians don't share the same vision, then change is inevitable, so take control of it, if your serious...
If your not really that serious, its not your career, is it worth losing friends over jamming?
A band that doesn't rehearse is not a band, but a bunch of people who play with music as a hobby!
2007-03-18 23:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
I'm 17 now and I did the same thing your doing now when I was 14 or 15 ish. My friends wanted to sound like relient k and some other cheesy crap music and I wanted us to be inspired by My Chemical Romance or some indie bands like Say Yeah Yeah or Modest Mouse, Disturbed, Incubus, Bullet for my Vallentine,
Yeah, you get the idea. More rock instead of pop punk.
BUT I made a big deal out of it and we ended up not hanging out for over a year! It sucked so bad. Finally we forgot about and it and realized it was stupid. the songs we wrote were awesome, but we sucked playing together. So we forgot about it.
If I were you and I had to choose between my friends and my band, I would definetly choose my friends.
2007-03-18 23:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just sit him down and be completely honest with him, point out your differences and you like this, he likes that kinda thing, this stuff happens , its important to keep it real because you both obviously love to be in a band, just not together, its not the end of the world, and he will either understand it or not, sometimes we have to go through stuff we rather not go through, life is such, good luck.
2007-03-18 23:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to the world of music, you're gonna have this problem as long as you are playing with other people, remember when you invite members to join it doesn't matter if you like them or not, it's all about skill level, and who's willing to play what, now if your best friend doesn't want to practice then sorry about his luck, you gotta let hime go, you gotta look at having a band just like you would a job
2007-03-18 23:31:06 · answer #7 · answered by Bmelonhead1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋