I don't really understand how you associate the two....
And I understand the big deal of loosing your virginity, but whats up with innoence. When you think about it virginity seems more like your just having sex, loosing your innoncence seems more like making love......Anyway I need to know how you get innoncence out of virginity. Because I thought innocence being lost was when you did something wrong or dirty, a crime......
2007-03-18 16:21:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
because sex completes the transformation from a girl to a woman/young adult. And everyone thinks of little kids as innocent. Its a way of coming of age.
2007-03-18 16:25:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think the two are so intertwined because before sex, I think people are sort of young, naive, protected in a sense. I know before I ever had sex, I had a much different understanding of the world, of dating, of how relationships work, etc. It probably doesn't help when you lose your virginity to a guy who turns out to be a total jerk, but either way... innocence was lost. Sex complicates things and it's usually not in a way that anyone would consider "innocent."
2007-03-18 16:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by mixikitten 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just a figure of speech and perhaps a testament to the excessive amount of importance we place on sex. I remember when I lost my virginity at 15. It felt good, but I was disappointed. I thought I would feel more, like I had accomplished something or gotten closer to manhood but I didn't. All I did was copulate. Before that age, I'd been homeless, seen my mother attempt suicide, and been beaten to unconsciousness, among other things. I lost my innocence way before I lost my virginity.
2007-03-18 17:14:12 · answer #3 · answered by Subconsciousless 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That comes from an old view of innocence.
Innocence was just being without experience (not necessarily sexual experience) as life goes on you gain experience and loose innocence. You gain knowledge and loose ignorance/being naive.
So not having the knowledge of your own sexuality was a form of innocence.
Loosing your innocence became a slang for loosing your virginity.
2007-03-18 16:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by CrystalEyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are no longer "A child", thus you have lost that innocent quality. Sex is not a game. It is life at it's most raw and it brings with it responsibilities that can change your whole world. It can bring adult decisions and can adult laws down on you no matter what age you are. It can being the opinions of others to bear on your life. Like it or not. After you have done it once, you are labeled for the rest of your life. Out of wedlock, you are a sl*t. With the marriage, you are a blushing bride. Think about it. What is innocent about a sl*t?
This is why it is called innocence lost.
2007-03-18 16:31:52 · answer #5 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's religions for you. They try and make sex dirty.
You''re right, innocence has little to do with virginity. Innocence is a state of mind, so you can have a virgin who is totally not innocent, masturbating 5 times a day and having all sorts of sexual fantasies, and you can have a girl who is totally innocent who has sex just as you'd have an ice cream or a lolly without any real sexual intent.
2007-03-18 16:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
innocence is a child that doesnt even know what virginity is .You dont understand sex or have even know the first thing about it .Having sex before marriage and knowing that you arent going to be together for the rest of your life.Its like an old time saying .If your young it probably is hard now a days to understand the term.It was polite at one time to say may I hold your hand now times have changed.
2007-03-18 16:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by Gypsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People imply that you lose your sexual innocence with the loss of your virginity, but GENERAL INNOCENCE to me, is something altogether different. I was naive and innocent of the ways of people long after I lost my virginity.
Some things are only learnt with experience.
Good luck
2007-03-18 16:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by Croa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you could be innocent and not be a virgin. You could be a virgin and not innocent. get it? boys can be innocent and has nothing to do with sex. let this be a lesson about the depth of the great English language. Subltle, complex, requires much more than knowing how to spell and the simplistic definition of words.
2007-03-18 16:26:12 · answer #9 · answered by hillary c 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Funny, I was thinking about this myself yesterday.
I came to the conclusion that it's just a word thing. Think about it, can you see your grandmother "losing her virginity"? Or can you see her "losing her girlhood innocence"?
Ahhhh.... see... it's just an old word thing. Like how grandma used to be "gay" and now, your odd cousin Kevin, the one who wears dresses, is the one described as "gay"....
2007-03-18 16:27:18 · answer #10 · answered by RIffRaffMama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋