My husband came to see my son tonite(we hadn't seen him in a week)My son & I are moving 4 hrs. away in less than a week & he only spent 3 hrs. w/him tonite. We ate at my son's favorite place, but him & I barely talked. He acts like I'm the one who did wrong. Maybe he didn't like being accused of cheating & now he wants to act like he doesn't like me whenever he was trying to act all sweet up until I accused him 10 days ago. How could he be mad at me whenever I had reason to accuse. Isn't buying Victoria's Secret lingerie (not my size-he said it was for me but returned them..yet i have the receipt & tags) enough to accuse & my son told me they went out to eat w/a"girl from daddy's work." I tried to be nice tonite & asked how he's been & he said "alright." & didn't ask me the same. I asked where he's been staying & he said "different places". I told him he could stay w/us if he wants & I won't pick a fight. I said that for my son..but he chose not to. What is WRONG w/him?
2007-03-18 16:11:23 · 9 answers · asked by love my life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We're moving b/c he wants us to save money & so we won't be alone all the time since he is always "working". I'll be living w/my parents he'll be living w/his coworker.( a guy)
2007-03-18 16:12:40 · update #1
I remember your original post about finding the reciepts. Your heart wants to do something entirely different but your head knows what you need to do. Grab your son, turn around, and RUN!!!!! and never look back. It will get easier with time....Remember, your new life is waiting! Best wishes.
2007-03-21 11:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by Nursing4me2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer. He is probably cheating on you and maybe serious about this girl. For him to get mad at you for accusing him is passive aggressive. IOW he says "nothing" but his actions are making you suspicious. Then you say something to him and you are "making waves". A typical defense mechanism. He is also being very secretive and non-specific about his whereabouts. You are his wife and he has a son. You should know where he is- even if it is because in case of an emergency involving your son. As far as staying with you, again, it indicates he has other places to stay like at a woman's house. I hate to say for sure but his behavior sure seems highly suspect of a cheating husband.
You need to try to make him come clean and be prepared for the answer. In your other details part, where he says he wants to save money. I don't know, first thing I think of you are not around to catch him and also gives him time to see if the other woman is going to work.
He seems to have checked out of the marriage for now at least. I would suggest counseling considering there is a child at stake. I truly believe when children are involved you should try to work it out. If he does not want to go, go for yourself. Your child needs a mother who is not upset and can take care of herself. The best of luck to you. Will pray for you and your entire family unit.
2007-03-18 23:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by angelina123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hypothetically speaking, maybe he got wrong size by accident & if the person knows him they refunded it anyway, but if u accused him & he didn't do anything maybe he said screw it & decided not to give it to u , but I would ask him not to bring other woamen around ur son out of respect or was this when u were together. Men are not going to be all nicey if u have recently snapped on him come on girl u know better. You should have played it off untill u had serious info. I would have been honey this is the wrong size this don't fit & see if he would have returned it & got the right one, be smart get info first then get angry
2007-03-18 23:20:28 · answer #3 · answered by pammybear1971 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you should move on with your life. I am in the middle of a divorce. You need to be strong for your son, I have 4 yr old twin girls and I know it can be very hard. But I don't want my girls growing up thinking its okay to be in a loveless marriage. Good Luck
2007-03-18 23:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by loveheartsfree 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's not unhappy to see you go. Are you sure this move is for "financial' reasons? Sounds like he wants you outta town so he can do as he pleases. When you get to your parents house, you need to get a job, get secure and plan on building a new life for you and your son, sounds like he's moving out of the picture to me..
Good luck
2007-03-18 23:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like he has found a flame and u need to let go and move on. U deserve someone better.
Dont get discouraged, your next love will be a whole lot better.
2007-03-18 23:26:11 · answer #6 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he just doesn't want to feel sorry for himself. or he just want to put you on defensive side.
give him time to realize his mistake....just be patient with him...
2007-03-18 23:20:38 · answer #7 · answered by shekinahjireh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you don't know what you want. maybe its best u do move
2007-03-18 23:16:41 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the question should be what's wrong with HIM...
2007-03-18 23:18:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋