What is Malay hospitality?

Question

Definition please, serious answers only.

You're absolutely right, x_ill! Their constant thumbs down tell more about them than anything else! I mean, which foreigner surfing this forum will feel welcome if they see answers like: don't listen to him, he's not Malaysian! If I heared don't listen to him, he's not American I wouldn't like to visit US. But in the US nobody told me: shut up, you're not American, everybody was nice and friendly. I got invited to Jewish homes, although I'm a Muslim...

I've met some Jews in Malaysia but they won't tell any Malaysian they're Jews. Racial tolerance???

Well, I constantly hear people talking about 'Malay hospitality' but I still don't understand what is that?

I think it'll be difficult to choose the best answer, so many great answers!

I'll keep the question open some more to hear more feedbacks...

I'm not Bangla, although I don't feel offended by that. Where do I come from it's irrelevant. I believe all human beings are born equal, no matter where they come from, that's why I don't want to disclose my ethnic background, but anyway I doubt any of you will be able to guess even if I give you 100 guesses. I'm not an economic immigrant though, I've got personal reasons to be here.

Freedom of practising religion is not exclusive to Malaysia.

Please nobody report Azayi1's answer, it needs to stay here as an example of arrogance of certain Malay individuals.

Yes, I agree that Malays whom I know are more welcoming. It's because

It's because I avoid annoying people. Why would I hang out with someone who doesn't treat me nice.

Indians aren't necessarily better than Malays. Some of them have some serious attitude problems too, especially the non-educated ones. On Malay side, however, I see there are lots of highly educated people who cannot behave. They'll always say: we Malaysians are so good.

I say let the facts speak. I'm trying to give an objective judgement, not to stigmatise people based on their race. People like azayi1 just reinforce the stereotype image of Malays. If they want to show us wrong they should give us a good example, which never happens. They continue to behave like they own this site.

I had some bad experience with Malays in Austria, where we kicked them out of our mosque because they were misbehaving despite several warnings. But it doesn't make me feel bad about all Malays. Nevertheless, I got married to one later.

Now, again, the topic is Malay hospitality

Thebear has a good point. The low rating and azayi's post just show he's right!

Must it the food served? What if I have let's say religious objections? Let's say as a Muslim I don't eat prawns, shells, snails, crabs, squids etc.

Answer 1

You're welcome but not welcomed :-)

---just like this part of the Yahoo Answers world...

Haven't you heard? Malays can correct people whenever they want and they are allowed to sin whenever they like...

Berani kerana benar...
That's Malaysian hospitality... at its best!

Answer 2

there is no perfect race, there is no perfect nationality, there is no perfect country, there is no perfect individuals. What u give is what u get. If u are rude by any means, nobody of any race can tolerate u. Especially if u are racist. Naturally people will say 'malay is like this and that, chinese is like this and that, orang asli is like this and that and so forth'. What we can do is to have a certain level of tolerance towards each other. certain things are best left unsaid dont u think? lets not stir something that u cant handle..
U talking about Malay hospitality.. Are yours any perfect? Remember, what is right in your eyes might not be right to others and likewise. There are no standardise level of hospitality that every individual must follow. Be it for the malay, chinese, bidayuh, iban, kelabit, orang asli, javanese, indian, dutch, american, pendatang asing etc. We are all human. Forgive and forget. No one is perfect. There is absolutely no one nation one race. Equality cannot be achieve as long as somebody thinks he has more rights than others. End of the day we all will die and we die alone. Wont be bringing our race with us. Its between an individual and God.
I am tired of seeing racial questions and statement in this travel section. We dont want anymore type of 13 may in this country. Enough problems struggling with the price hike and all. Government even thinking of charging motorists for entering town now (like in Singapore). All of us are facing the same problem regardless of race and hospitality level. If another racial 13 may incident happen again, our economy is going to kaput termendously. C'mon, think of the consequences before you speak. I have young children. Never occur to me to teach them bad habits and teach them not to trust any other race. Dont be an idiot. Give me a thumbs down? Go ahead.

Answer 3

i disagree with some people ...

i can tell that indians are friendly,
chinese and malays - about the same .. but i am sure most chinese are bias and the act a lot .. malays are easily tempered but not as rude as chinese ...

this is most of the people i met ... don't know about you guys ...

however, these symptoms seems obvious only starting last year .... before that we were all happy living together ... i wonder who start this ...

i always looking forwand to go back to malaysian best period of living again ....

bottom line - sorry if i offend anybody. i just need to state my view which does not totally agree with sara and x'ill,,,

Answer 4

To comment on Dave Sta's statement it was Kuala Lumpur that was voted the rudest city in the world. There is a big difference between country and city life. I know of many unfriendly cities in the world.
Malaysia has 3 prime ethnic groups and the interaction of these groups sometimes gives a wrong impression. I have been in the company of members of all 3 groups both individually and collectively. Amongst professional people there is no difference between these people and professional people elsewhere. The tag of Malaysian hospitality is simply how the Malaysians welcome you into their environment. In some countries as a visitor you will be invited to the home of your host; this sometimes happens in Asia, but more often it will be to a meal in a good restaurant.

Answer 5

somehow if i really say what i feel . i'm going to be slammed by both sides.. so better keep my mouth shut :S

Edited:

but frankly when i'm visit malaysia for the holidays and stuff lots of things can happen:

-i get treated so well by the local chinese and indians (especially in the service sector - weird but its true)

-i get treated well by the local malays only if i know them (eg : a friends friend or someones relative)

-i dont get treated so well by the local malays if i donoe them chances are i get stared at but of cause since i'm the type of person who likes to break the ice, i will still be polite and it works sometimes only :( .

And to think i'm malay myself.. sad eh ...

Edit: azayi1

do u know there are :

-Madrasah islamic school that caters both the normal circular as well as the religious circular.
-There are chinese schools set up by the chinese community and lots of them
-Cant be sure of an indian school but i'm pretty sure there are.
-Convent schools

so dont assume that singapore has no schools set up by other races or cater to other religion.

if i'm wrong in interpreting what yr saying kindly inform me

thank you.

Answer 6

malay hospitality?
I love treating my guests. And every guest of the house must eat the food that i served. (obviously the food my guests would like). If i dont feel like cooking, i would make sure that we eat out in someplace nice. Bottomline is, guests will not leave my company with empty stomach. Would normally asked the guests what are their plans. And i will try my best to assists them in any way. Like looking for certain items, going places etc.

Answer 7

Malay/ Malaysian hospitality
my opinion & answer..
- given the right to other religion to practice their own religion. every religion have their own temple etc2
-give the right to other race to open own school. chinese, tamil school.. (we also have this such of school in singapore)
-we acknowledge the present of foreigners & we welcome them...(bangla's like AQ)
-we dont bother about cultural different.. (we're not like indonesia etc2)..
-we respect other religion & races.. we have kongsi raya etc2.

having said that there's always bad apple in a bucket of apples.. but u can't blame malay or malaysian for this..
at least we leave in harmony & stays with it..
all the ppl & races have to embrance together to make malaysia a better country...
i feel sad seing ppl condems each other (the asker).. why not we just live in peace..

Cheers ..

---
shayna
-thanks for the info.. appreciate it..

Answer 8

inviting a person home and kick him out after 3 days

Answer 9

How actually to define Malay hospitality? I never heard of this term before and I believe that this is plain provoking question to undermine certain race. Doesn't hospitality is universal ethic that every people should have no matter wut race you are coming from. Why on earth that we want to divide certain hospitality based on their race?

Answer 10

Good point!

Malaysia has been voted as the rudest country in the world. I guess that will help you define Malay hospitality.