neices, nephews, and grandchildren?
2007-03-18 15:42:25 · 19 answers · asked by ME!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Most definetly...however don't expect them to automatically love the stepkids. That's not a fair or reasonable expectation. They just need to try and treat them the same and welcome them to the family.
2007-03-18 15:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a step grandchild, I have had that side of the family for 20+ years. I was 14 when my Dad got remarried and I have a very close relationship with all of my "step" Mom's side of the family. My families motto has always been there are only "steps" that lead to our house not in our family!! My baby brother is my "step" brother but I have known him since he was a year old. We are very close! It really is going to be a big deal if thats the way the family is going to treat it!!
2007-03-18 15:49:24 · answer #2 · answered by Abstalk 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The operative word is "should". I would not allow children in my home to be so obviously treated different that it would hurt their feelings, especially if they are very young children.
How to work this out with teenagers and middle aged children could become very difficult. When there are children in a family from several different families, it could get hairy.
God meant for one man and one woman to be married for life. This kind of entanglement would be avoided should that happen.
2007-03-18 16:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by Butterflie927 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The key word is " should ". Yes by all means but many choose not to as it is not always easy. In laws are not blood relatives and so they do not always want to go the extra mile. its not easy to accept non-blood relatives. My mother married twice and the second marriage was the worst as the kids did not want to accept the new father. The same happens to the kids as well.
So choose your poison. Bad things do happen and shouldn't but they do.
its a tuff world out there. !!
2007-03-18 15:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by having fun 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes.... in a perfect world. But sadly, this is not the case. My inlaws never notice the good things about me or the good things I do. But they sure concentrate on the bad things and dwell on them until they are beyond stressed. People are crazy like that. I dont know
2007-03-18 15:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by Adam B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They should. Good hearted ones always do. Some however have issues that they take out on those kids, which becomes a divisive factor in the marriage and causes a lot of resentment.
2007-03-18 15:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by Rich Z 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
in a perfect world they would but if they don't that is their loss. as long as the kids know that the love and trust is still strong between they and their immediate family all should be well.
2007-03-18 15:47:07 · answer #7 · answered by wndylark 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, but try not to be pushy and realize that it may take everybody some time to get to that point.
2007-03-18 16:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by anahahamama 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes.
2007-03-18 15:44:45 · answer #9 · answered by Biz 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if they were't going to before the marriage they won't after. but then all new relationships need some time to grow. give it a few years. but don't expect it.
2007-03-18 15:48:21 · answer #10 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋