i know this guy from school that i hung out with a lot over the summer, but he's really emotional, and he gets mad at me over stupid things sometimes and stops talking to me (like girls do). First i just thought he was a little weird, but he's done this a few times over stupid things. Sometimes i dont even know what he's mad about. And then i'll ask him whats wrong and he'll say that he does so much and i dont do anything...
anyway, i think he might be gay because this one girl likes him a lot, and hangs out with him a lot, but he's never made any move or anything, and i've never seen him flirt or anything either.
I was talking to the girl who likes him and she said that she thought he might be gay for me...
I asked him if he was gay and he said no
I'm straight, and it's kind of creepy. what do i do? do you think he's gay?
2007-03-18 15:37:44 · 14 answers · asked by funaholic 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i have nothing against gays, but im straight..
2007-03-18 15:38:35 · update #1
Whether this guy is gay or not shouldn't really matter - what SHOULD matter, is that he is over emotional and puts you responsible for his reactions. This type of person is very hard to please and always seems unhappy. You need to sit down and decide whether or not you can be happy and comfortable with him as a friend. It sounds to me like you two have VERY different views on things - that's OK if you can BOTH respect the differences, but it does not sound like that's whats happening here. He says he carries more responsibility than you, and you are uncomfortable - doesn't sound like a respectable relationship to me! Let him down easy and slow, but it is in both of your best interests to move on without him.
2007-03-18 15:54:00 · answer #1 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is gay big deal. Why loose a friendship because of ones sexual prefrence. I have gay friends and i am straight. He is obviously very sensitive. Or maybe he isn't ready for such a strong commitment like being with a girl the pressure of rejection. you never know, but you should not make him uncomfortable.
2007-03-18 15:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by Aztec_Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the girl you think is pretty might not look pretty to him. It's not a big deal. ppl do have different choices. Anyway, even if he's gay...so what. It's not caching.
p.s. when girls try for a guy and he turns them down, some spread rumors that he's gay. it's not necessarily true, just that she's miffed she got rejected.
2007-03-18 15:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are just high maintinence, that doesn't automatically mean that they are gay. Some guys aren't into flirting and he may not even want to date the girl who likes him...maybe she's not his "type." My advice is make it clear that you are only interested in him as a friend, and if you don't want him as a friend then tell him that.
2007-03-18 15:43:23 · answer #4 · answered by Shannon A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For now believe him. He could have been raised in one of those touchy feely families. And as for the girl she may not be his type at all and is just spreading rumors. Unless he right out says "I want your love." don't freak too much. Just be sensitive and you should be fine.
...The moodiness might just be because he's feeling insecure and used. Offer to pay for whatever it is guys do on the weekends once in awhile.
2007-03-18 15:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by Dev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't ASSUME anything some people are more in tough with their emotions than others and well most guys are taught to shut them out. With the girl thing maybe he isn't interested in her did you think about that and maybe his parents taught him better morals than to mess with every girl that comes around.
2007-03-18 15:52:41 · answer #6 · answered by emotionalyhurtmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you consider yourself his friend then it should not bother you at all if he is gay or not. Approch him again and make sure he knows first that you will always be his friend no matter what the circumstances and that you just need him to know how that your friendship will always be there. He may be honest with you after this approch.
2007-03-18 15:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. i had a guy that was gay and last year(school year) i told asked him if he was gay and he said no the beginning of this year(school year) he told me that he was gay. maybe he doesnt want nebody to kno or he might trying to figure out himself just give it some time and he will tell you.
2007-03-18 15:54:49 · answer #8 · answered by baby_pimpette_09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a possibility hes gay, but maybe he jsut never found a girl hes interested in.
2007-03-18 15:42:09 · answer #9 · answered by *~*Volleyball player*~* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he is. Maybe he is just waiting for the right girl to come along.
2007-03-18 15:41:11 · answer #10 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋