Is it foolish for a woman to be a lifetime homemaker and work only inside the home?

Question

This is not my plan. I am home with a young baby but since I have been home I have noticed a huge stigma against stay at home moms, especially those with kids over 3. There seems to be a lot of pressure to place them in child care and be a contributing member of society. There is frowning upon for living off ones husband. My mother was a homemaker and did not work outside of the home, her friends were also homemakers and this did not happen... What happened to the importance of family life and the homemaker???

Answer 1

She should work as well to bring in as much income as possible and make use of her talents.
That's why i want my girlfriend to go to college before we marry.
It's unfair relying on the man to provide money to feed and clothe the family, he needs to spend time with the kids as well.
What if I die or can't work? Who will provide for my wife and children then?

Answer 2

I know how you feel. I don't have any kids and I used to be a homemaker. The problem is this work brings a very little appreciation and recognition by others because it seems to be something that everyone can do (even if they can't). In the past the only place that a women had in a world was to be a homemaker. Today, we have a great variety of opportunities and most people can't accept that are some women that really enjoy to be a homemaker and their family are happy with their choices too. It's hard to have a job that is not well appreciated or evaluated by others.
Right now, I am an interior decorator ( I have done this for the past 5 years) I have met people that does not take my work seriously with the proper respect, so as any other work, I put the respect where I believe suppose to be. I try to see this lack of respect as part of any work.
Every time that my friends used to criticize me, about being a homeworker, I used to make them understand (in a polite way), that what I chose to be wasn't their business. Some people can't just accept that others can be loved by others without having a great job or a successful career.

Answer 3

First of all, the law in my country, understands and acknowledges as a avlue..the work of a mother who stays at home and takes care of the child.
I would say that the fact that she is or not cleaning the house is not important ..when a man marry he marryes a woman he love ..he doesn't marry a housekeeper..
So the fact that the woman is taking care , and educateing the child is far more important then any job in the world..Only the job of a judge and of a teacher or president could be compared with the work of a mother who takes care and educates the child.

I think is a bad idea to let the child on the hand of a woman who is not his mother and go to work..is a bad and primitive idea.The most briliant thing is that the child must be educated and must live with his/mother must talk to het etc..til 20 years..So a woman has a job til 20 years and then she can rest..no go to work!

But if the woman wants to do something else while the child is at school , she could do something at home --if she can have a job at home or she can go to work and do what she likes to do..
Anyway..let's see that a job ocuppied by a woman cannot be taken by a man...So I think man should prefer to go to work and let the women home with the children... Many jobs today are ocupied by women..who need money or need a social status to prove they are clever..There was a historical period when women were considerated inferior to men in some aspects..they didn't had the right to vote...This happened because the men were stupid...and sexually obsessed. But those who get hurt from love noticed that women are also clever...

It is not right to ask for a woman to goo to work after she had to take care of a child..and educate him. I would like to see a judge and a president ..taking care of a baby from birth to 19 y.o, dayly as a mother does..and see how much he values this work..I think only God can value it..because only Him does more...then a mother..as only God knows her efforts..

Answer 4

If a woman is happy and fulfilled and wants to be a lifetime homemaker, who has the right to tell her that she is foolish? Well, maybe she's not always so happy and/or fulfilled, but it's her choice. Your last question...I don't know. In my opinion, it happened in the 60's when women started working "just until they got the 2nd car paid off." That's the neat thing about having lived that long ago. I don't have to read a book. I remember how it was. That is over-simplification, of course. Women started going for higher education and better jobs to buy more cars and more houses. And we said, "It doesn't matter the quantity of time we spend with our families. It's the quality of the time." There are some of us who now question if that was a true statement. Were we really liberated? Depends on the individual view, I suppose.

Answer 5

being a stay at home mother and homemaker are the greatest blessings in your life right now. your most important job is to raise your child. society can't do it for you.

there is a saying that goes something like this: the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.

it is so very true! some people erroneously believe that it takes a village to raise a child. all you have to do is look on the news to see children who have been left to the village to raise and see the lack of love and respect in those children to know that is simply not possible!

You want to imbue your child(ren) with the values that you and your husband believe in. You want them to respect the things that you respect.

The only way to start that process is by raising your children yourself.

Unfortunately, our society has forgotten the bedrock values and importance of the family that built our nation. You are blessed to be able to be home. Some women do not have that option, and they are just trying to do the best that their circumstances allow.

Try not to compare your circumstances to other people. You aren't 'living off of your husband'. You are raising your family. There will be later days to work and be outside the home. Right now - ignore the pressure of the people who preach the unimportance of what you are doing!

You ARE a contributing member of society. You are helping create another responsible member! You are teaching your child the building blocks that will bring stability to his/her life and to other lives.

Good luck and GOD BLESS!!

Answer 6

My mother is a homemaker, I love it because I can always rely on her if something goes wrong. There is nothing wrong with it, people just think it adds to the stigma that women belong in the home and no where else. They see it as an insult to women. Being a mom is a full time job.

Do what you feel best, don't listen tot he stigmas of being a homemaker there is nothing wrong with it.

Answer 7

I was growing up while women were being devalued in the home. What I have learned is that being at home is best for some families, and working outside the home is best for others. I am a proponent of every woman being able to perform some type of job that will pay her way if her husband fails for any number of reasons.

Since I had been raised to work, I was surprised at how productive I felt when I took time off to stay at home with my children. I did not have a choice and had to return to work but realized that in today's world, daycare is structured to socialize children to fit in to today's mainstream, for better or worse.

If you are best able to use your gifts in your home, more power to you. However, unlike your mother's situation, your peer group will not materialize without some effort from you to connect with them. Today's housewives assist schoolteachers, get candidates elected, form crime watches and care for many, like elderly and handicapped family members, who would otherwise be institutionalized. Do not let anyone make you feel that you are not valuable. Too many generations of women allowed that to happen, and this is why we are having this conversation today.

Answer 8

Speaking from the experience of being a single mom with no help from anyone who had to work two jobs - sometimes three - to support my children.....if you can afford it in any way, stay home with your children. Go to their conferences, their school skits, their games, - don't force them to take piano lessons or play soccer or dance lessons or tumbling unless it is what THEY want to do - they grow up too fast and without you there they are subject to the influence of a lot of people that you don't know a whole lot about. If I had it to do over again I would work one job, shop at Good Will, and be a better person for it. And how is it "living off of" your husband? When we get married we are supposed to become one - but then I guess since so much of this world has forgotten about God that they have forgotten what he had to say about marriage too.

Answer 9

Stay home with your children until they are at least in school. You are contributing more to society by taking care of your own kids and giving them the security of the maternal nurturing that is lacking in today's society.What is the importance of society? Who determines what is important?
Why do people want to have children and hand them off to strangers ? Most people are out to get material things in this day and age. Family life is not important anymore. That's why we are
where the thinking comes in about working mothers. Ignore
the stigma against stay at home moms. Those doing the talking are probably having to work to have the non-essential
do-dads they could do without, or maybe they found out they
just don't want to be tied down at home with the kids. If so, that's fine. Just let the rest of us alone who want to raise our own children. Living off one's husband is one of the dumbest
expressions I've ever heard in my life. I hope no one ever tells me that. God bless you for wanting to do what's right.

Answer 10

Do what suits You not anyone else. Women that tend to be Superwoman are generally the ones found at a therapists office. There is a time and season for everything. Once the dependant child is in school, some women choose to continue their own educations or pursue work.

Family life is important. Women should have their own money and their own bank accounts, just in case. There are so many that wind up on welfare and homeless that totally depend on their husbands for support. What happens if he decides to leave or worse dies, then what? Should you continue to stay home with little or no security of your own financially, once your children are adults and leave, to pursue their own lives? Evaluate it for yourself and ignore everything else.

Answer 11

It really is important to be at home IF YOU CAN. Not all have this option but as your children get older and in school, helping them with homework and monitoring them is much harder especially when you are working a second or third shift. First shift is better but there is still stress. If your family can afford for you to be home I think overall its a good choice. Maybe you can work part time when the children are not going to even know you ar gone. Good luck.