My past girlfriend had an abortion. She claims the child wasn't mine but refused a DNA test. I am currently a teacher working in a low income school district. Most of my female students are either pregnent or either have children of their own. These children have real reasons for not having children at this time in their life. I on the other hand am capable of raising a child and by no means would accept an abortion. I am finding it hard to teach as I am constently reminded of the abortion. Many times I have left the classroom to throw-up in the restroom. This abortion has effected me emotionally and mentally. Can I sue?
2007-03-18 14:34:58 · 8 answers · asked by Kevin B 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
No. You cant sue. No one has wronged or harmed you. You would be trying to sue for something that MIGHT have happened...
WHY DOES EVERYONE WANT TO SUE EVERYONE????????
GET OVER IT. MOVE ON!
2007-03-18 14:42:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can sue for anything, anytime, anywhere. That is how screwed up the American legal system is.
Now as to your chances of winning.......about zero.
First, you were not married so you do not have spousal rights. Next time do not knock a woman up until after you marry her. If you are going "nuts" over one child, imagine what kind of shape you would be in if this all happened again.
Second, an abortion does not need the man's consent, only the womans. Since the Supreme Court of the USA seems to think having an abortion is a woman's "right" you will not be able to win as no court will want to try to deny that right.
Third, you do not appear to have tried anything to relieve your mental issues. Ask for reassignment to a lower grade where the kids will not be pregnant. Consider getting a job at a boys prep school. Consider seeing a psychiatrist. I think a little therapy and Prozac might help you.
Lastly, you are a bad example for your students. You criticize their being pregnant but you contributed to the same with your past girl friend. Ever hear the term "Role Model?"
Perhaps some of your mental issues are not from the abortion but from you having to watch others deal with a situation similar to your ex girl friend's and you are feeling guilty for causing an out-of-wedlock pregnancy.
2007-03-18 22:24:14 · answer #2 · answered by forgivebutdonotforget911 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My diagnosis after reading this is that you were suffering from surpressed depression that has been brought to full power by the abortion. For this reason, I do not advise you to take leagal action, but rather set up what is called a Negotiation in which you, your lawyer, your ex, and her lawyer discuss the issue at hand.
The reasons I do not advise you take this to court are as follows: 1. You have little time, money, or mental stamina to withstand a court battle. 2. If you are indeed suffering supressed depression, you will not be able to claim that her abortion had anything to do with your current state and you will lose the battle (and believe me, the court will catch that immediately), and 3. In cases such as these, a judge will rule in favor of the woman and if indeed, you did get her knocked up, she could twist the battle around and sue you for medical payments or something of that nature.
One thing you have going for you is this: if she believes the child is not yours, there is no reason for her to deny a DNA test which leads me to assume she is unsure.
My second recomendation is that you go to a shrink for two reasons: 1. To help you through your depression and 2. If you do decide to take this to court, a Dr.'s report is needed for you to support this claim.
Lastly, my final advice is that you move away from this environment.
2007-03-18 22:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by Sirius Black 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't sue, but I feel like I understand what you are talking about. I don't believe in abortion except for really serious things like rape, incest, saving the life of the mother. When a child is simply done away with, suffering is going to happen to someone. Often the father suffers, too. We need t overhaul the laws and get the radical feminists out of the equation.
2007-03-18 22:17:35 · answer #4 · answered by Brigid O' Somebody 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should've sued for a DNA test before the abortion. Unfortunately, there's no way to sue for psychological damages because you didn't sue earlier.
Sorry =(
See a counselor for this though. It's hurting you not only emotionally but physically. Also, talk to the woman of whom could've been your child and ask why she didn't get the DNA test. Maybe, if she had a good reason, your conscience could clear up.
Good luck, I'm rooting for you =)
2007-03-18 21:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by OwNaGeR 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're kidding, right?
You don't think your GF wouldn't have had to throw up in the restroom had she remained pregnant?
Gosh, I wish I could sue my ex for the psychological damage he inflicted on me by being physically and mentally abusive.
You sound money-hungry to me, Pal. If you're all that psyched out, get professional help instead of blaming your GF for exercising her freedom to reproduce when SHE is ready to. And next time, use a condom or keep it in your pants.
2007-03-18 21:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you serious? Go get help, you're messed up. Keep your thing in your pants if you can't handle a woman and her freedom to make choices. And pleeeeeeeease tell everyone about this, especially girls you go out with.... in their heads lights, bell, and whistles will go off and they'll think, "Ruuuuuuuuun nooooooooooow!!!!" They need to know what they're dealing with ASAP and this will really clue them in.
2007-03-18 21:53:53 · answer #7 · answered by lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not likely. Laws are anti man. It is not healthy that something like this affects you this much.
2007-03-18 21:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by Chainsaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋