We met in Minn. and move to FL within a year. Throughout the last 10 years, we seem to move back and forth every 2 years. I love the weather in florida, but all my family is back home. I come from a very close knit family. I am only 29 years old and I miss watching my nieces and nephews grow up. I want to start a family soon, but we cannot seem to agree on a place to live. We are both tired of moving back and forth, but it seems he is only happy in FL and I'm only happy in Minn. I don't know if I should stay to make my husband happy, move to make me happy or what my other options are. I have already missed so many little moments back home I wish I was there for. I fear if I go, it will be alone. I am scared to be without my husband and scared to start over. My mom says I am not getting any younger and I cannot keep moving back and forth. My family wants me home. He moves us down here and I move us up there. I don't think we can keep this up. Something has to give.
2007-03-18 14:20:50 · 10 answers · asked by just me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In the end you have to do what makes YOU happy. I loved living near my cousins....we have such great memories together....and now my kids love being with their cousins (but now they have moved up north and we are still here in Fla) I think being with, or should I say near family is priceless....But also approaching 40, I'm starting to look back and regret that I didn't make more decisions based on MY happiness. Sooo, since there aren't any kids involved, the two of you need to discuss your future seriously, and realistically, and decide from there.
2007-03-18 14:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by 123..WAIT! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. you can't continue this much longer. You both need to settle down in one of the two places. It sounds like the two of you need to seriously sit down and come to an agreement on where to live. There's no reason why you can't visit the other place at vacation time or something. One of you is going to be unhappy it sounds like. Maybe seperating would be the answer. Who knows, he may not like Florida as much without you there, and move back to Minn. or visa versa.
2007-03-18 21:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's just you two and no other kids involved...it's a very tough call.
IT's like you love each other but...are unselfishly moving to please the other despite individual happiness. This is typical of Minnesotants, I know this because I am from there. If he is unhappy here, then let him stay in Florida.
NOt to be mean or anything, but sometimes you have to be selfish. Both of you want to be happy.
2007-03-18 21:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by matthaumschild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one thing,you don't need your or his family sticking their noses in,each side is predijedice to their own,you 's need to set down and have a long talk,theres going to have to be some give and take from both of you,it would be a shame if you's split up over this, there has to be a middle ground there some where.(Good Luck) Work at it!!!!
2007-03-18 21:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by Butch46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are married now and you both need to realize you have your lives to live together....moving back and forth is ridiculous, let your neices and nephews stay with you in Florida for a week or two during the summer; take vacations to Minnesota; perhaps find a middle ground....Tennessee
2007-03-18 21:27:11 · answer #5 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to read it 2 times.. first of all you are going to tear your family apart financially and emotionally if you keep moving all the time, it is not good for kids and wont look good on a job app. or credit history, you have to leave the nest sometime and decide on your own.. when we grow up we get our own family and we must do what is best for them
2007-03-18 21:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live 6 months in Minnesota and 6 months in Florida. Spring and summer in Minnesota and Fall and Winter in Florida. Have your families help out $$$ so that you can make this work.
2007-03-18 21:27:09 · answer #7 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand you want to be close to your fisrt family, but now you are married... means you have your own family, so grow up and think about making a real home for you and your husband, then plan about having kids. You need to make your married life. Does not matter whta your parents say, it you and your husband.
2007-03-18 21:26:08 · answer #8 · answered by Marquel 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You married him so you go where he goes. A job may have some part in this or do neither of you need to work
2007-03-18 21:30:37 · answer #9 · answered by greenfrogs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your mother.
2007-03-18 21:30:54 · answer #10 · answered by Helen S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋