The first time was about 10 years into the marriage and it was just a spur of the moment thing that I thought would never happen again. It felt so good and I felt so naughty doing it that I just couldn't stop. I would indulge every time he turned his back and it quickly became an addiction I could no longer control. I feel terrible about keeping such secrets from him but I'm afraid if I tell him now he won't trust me anymore. Being the banker in Monopoly means the world to me and I just don't know what I would do if I was stuck with the meaningless job of handing out properties to their respective buyers. Should I tell him or keep my mouth shut?
2007-03-18 14:14:03 · 36 answers · asked by Rogue Tomato 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LOL. Naw, I'd keep this one a secret. However, if you feel badly about it, you could just throw an extra $50 in the free parking pot. Not to worry your not alone...I cheat at scrabble.
2007-03-18 14:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes of course you should be honest and finally tell him. He needs to know about this so he can make a choice whether he still will want to be with your or not. I dont know how you could be so deceptive and have kept it a secret for so long. Yes you should tell him asap. If you are not comfortable with telling him alone then take him on the Maury show or some place like that and tell him there. He deserves to know the truth dont ya think? If he were doing this to you would you not want him to tell you about it and be honest? He may never trust you again but this is the chance you are going to have to take.
2007-03-18 14:25:41 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont know about the whole monopoly thing but I think that sometimes what someone does not know can not hurt him. You have been doing this for some time and I mean you can tell him but I think he would not only not trust you but will not forgive you either
2007-03-18 14:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you were cheating on your husband that many of years you should have been divorced. If he's healthy, why did you do such a thing. Hell, if I had a husband that was healthy I would be giving him sex not some other man out on the street. I think you are crazy being in a marriage that long cheating!!! If I was that man (your husband) I sure in the hell would not have sex with you!!
2007-03-18 14:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you may just have to stop the Monopoly until you can get it under control. And don't go back until you feel able to handle the responsibility of "handling his bills" so to speak. But certainly don't tell him why - a revelation like that could break a man.
2007-03-18 14:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by romipenne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never been so shocked by a revelation in my life. But in your place, I wouldn't feel terrible about cheating for 20 years. I'd feel worse about him not noticing! Your man really doesn't pay attention to you, does he?
Then again, maybe he just loves you so much, that he feels if you need to cheat, and it's really not hurting anyone but yourself, he's willing to let you continue. For your sake though, seek help. It's not fair to him. He sounds like a good man, spending that much time with you, you should be ashamed.
2007-03-18 14:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by miz_booty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mouth shut. The only reason you want to tell him is because YOU feel terrible. You want to take off some of the guilt by telling him. What purpose will that serve other than your own. HE'LL feel terrible - and you'll feel guilty. Not right.
2007-03-18 14:23:21 · answer #7 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off. I think you should have gotten a divorce before it happened the first time. Yes you should definitely tell him. That is not fair to him. And be expecting that divorse too, Any man/woman that stays with someone like you is crazy! You should seek counseling for yourself as well. I don't understand how and why people like you do this sort of thing. and for 20 years?? How do you even live with yourself. Your husband obviously means nothing to you.
2007-03-18 14:20:55 · answer #8 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Regardless of what these nimrods tell you, it would serve no positive purpose whatsoever to tell him so keep your mouth shut. However, you need to make a decision as to whether you wish to continue your risky behavior. Eventually, it's going to bite you in the *** one way or another.
My advice is to chalk it up to experience and just stop.
2007-03-18 14:24:35 · answer #9 · answered by Disco Mudda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL! By all menas, keep it a secret. A girl needs a bit of naughty indulgence from time to time!
2007-03-18 14:31:30 · answer #10 · answered by Curry 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋