I have gone to a lot of schools and have a lot of "letters" after my name. the issue is once guys find this out about me, they run away. How can a successful professional woman make a man feel comfortable enough to pursue a relationship without feeling threatened?
2007-03-18 14:13:12 · 16 answers · asked by PharmDiva 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, you could start by finding a man with a lot of "letters" after his name. You wouldn't be so far apart on the totem pole. Plus, a man with all of those "letters" after his name won't fee intimidated by you at all. As a matter of fact, the two of you would live the same type of hard working, successful, and driven lifestyles. I'd think that would be a perfect match.
2007-03-18 14:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by Virgo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Men aren't "intimidated" by the degree and the title.
We CAN be, and often ARE intimidated by the attitude that comes with the degree.
If you always judge men based on their job, rather than their personality (for instance, you won't date a waiter who's a sweet guy, but you will fall all over yourself for a stockbroker with the personality of a pile of dirt), if you always throw it in a man's face that "I have two masters degrees, and I went to ____ College and I belonged to ____ ____ ____ sorority", if you belittle a man who has a blue collar or service sector job, then you will have a hard time finding a husband, ESPECIALLY an African American husband.
If you want to find a man, first of all, judge him for who he is, how he treats his family and how he treats you.
That's all that matters.
Also, if you're REALLY intelligent, it will shine through - you don't always have to name drop what school you went to, or what sorority you belonged to,or what profession you have.
I have a friend who's a Black professional woman and she's got a fiance.
How?
Simple!
She never throws it in his face, or anybody elses face, that she's a chef that graduated from the finest culinary school in America and used to be a chef at the White House prior to getting her current job as executive chef of a major New York City jazz club.
In fact, she NEVER tells ANYBODY that stuff unless you ask her - she's very humble, despite her great achievements.
And, she never throws it in her fiance's face that she's a college grad and a chef and he's a fireman.
If you want an African American husband, just follow her lead - don't always brag about your degree and your job, and never ever make him feel like less of a man because he has a job in a blue collar field.
If you follow that advice, I'm sure you'll find yourself a great brotha who'd be happy to marry you!
2007-03-18 14:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not at all.. Just keep your options and heart open to meeting men here and there and dating and be ready to find that Mr Right. There are plenty of men out there that like professional and intelligent women and who will love you for you. Good luck to you and never give up hope or looking. Keep your options and heart open. The right guy will not be threatened or intimidated by this at all. Good luck to you.
2007-03-18 14:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A professional male would want nothing less so why would you think otherwise? It has a lot to do with how you feel inside because a man will see that confidence he admires and self-respect. What you give to yourself inside he is either going to want you to brush some of that goodness on him or he will dismiss you if you have low self-esteem.
When you shine from the inside out...he will not be able to
avoid you.
If you feel you can't find a professional you are probably showing that somehow.
2007-03-18 14:23:09 · answer #4 · answered by goodness 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
congrats..you have just made yourself available to a highly eligible educated individual. which has eliminated all of the losers you may have run into. don't dumb yourself down for any man. ever. the right one will feel comfortable. need a area of men in the staus you want? think the next president of the United States. the sky is the limit.
2007-03-18 14:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You just have to be yourself and keep a positive attitude there is someone for everybody, sometimes it takes a long time to find the one person that will accept you for who you are and not care if you're smarter or make more money than him.
2007-03-18 14:29:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congrats! Don't even feel that way. The only letters I ever have near my name spell out "the amount you owe..." If I were you I would take out a few girl Friends, it's always when you're not looking that love finds you! Good Luck!
2007-03-18 14:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by josiedickelman 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As far as I am concerned, you could have the complete alphabet after your name - there is so much more to consider than Ps, Ms, Ds, Hs, etc after one's name that would turn a guy off faster. Something to think about...it may be just an excuse for the guy...covering the real reason....
2007-03-18 14:23:36 · answer #8 · answered by RealEYES 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Congrats!!!!
Any guy who runs away when they see proof of your brilliance aren't worth your time.
It might be worth your while to keep an eye out for guys who also have intelligence like you do, or are also successful. They'll understand the work you went through to get where you are, and respect that.
2007-03-18 14:23:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Men that are secure in their masculinity, are not intimidated by letters at the end of your name. I am not an educated man by any means, but can hold my own in most any circumstance. I ain't Skeered!, and neither are other secure men!
2007-03-18 14:22:12 · answer #10 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋