im gay or at least i think so i like guys and i fantisay about them but when it comes to have sex i just cant do it i had tow partners eatch on of the lasted a week coz i cant have sex and cant do the things they ask me to do or do it but feeling gross even thought i had dreams about them b4 i have a relation but i cant do the things i dream of can u help me decide wether im gay or not
2007-03-18 14:02:14 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
That should be the last of your worries right. Did you happen to read your question and actually understand it?
ONLY YOU KNOW IF ARE GAY OR NOT.
2007-03-18 14:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by Active Denial System™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you may want therapy. If you have issues that prevent you from enjoying a sexual relationship you need to work them out.
On the other hand. Sex is kinda gross. There is all that swapping of body fluids and the concept of penetration has a dominant/submissive aspect to it that is some times best not to explore.
If you can’t handle any sexual contact, seek help. If you just don’t like one activity that your partners have liked such as anal sex that’s fine, many gay men don’t like anal. Decide what’s best for you and do that.
As for the gay thing; you may just have gay leanings. If you like girls and can perform well with them. Then go find a nice girl, and keep a stash of gay porn under your bed.
2007-03-18 21:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by Hermit IX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it could be an issue where you've internalized societal attitudes about gay sex and therefore you have mental friction when you try to have sex.
If you're fantasizing about men but repulsed by the actual act, that would be my rationalization of what's going on. Maybe you could seek out counseling to work on this issue -- but if you do, make sure you find someone who is sympathetic to gay issues so if you are in fact more comfortable identifying as gay, they won't try and tell you you're broken or sick. Likewise, you don't want someone forcing the gay label down your throat if you're really not or even if you are but not ready to go down that road.
Good luck! :)
2007-03-18 21:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by SDTerp 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are gay, and seriously repressed. Quit leading guys on and either be celebate or get some therapy, but don't tease people.
2007-03-18 21:17:10 · answer #4 · answered by irongrama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try using spell check first.....have you ever heard of run-on sentences?
2007-03-18 21:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋