I am supposed to be getting married to this great guy in less then a month. I love him, but I don't know if we are right for each other. We are just so different, and I am afraid that the difference will always be in the way of a happy relationship.
2007-03-18 13:44:39 · 21 answers · asked by Gerri P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Can any of the differences be resolved? Are they so major that they should bother you? If you to love each other, you can make it work but it will take effort on both parts. Marriage isnt easy and you should expect effort.
2007-03-18 13:58:51 · answer #1 · answered by PuckDog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that you do enough common interests, beliefs, and lifelong desires. Also make sure that your opinions on having children(and when), sharing responsibilities, furthering education, working, and standard of living are along the same lines. Just saying I love you doesn't mean you have a lifetime commitment. If the differences you speak of are major in importance it will only get worse after marriage. Make sure you also know what's inside your fiance's heart before saying I do. If you aren't really sure about him or haven't known him for quite sometime you had better hold off for a little bit. I you love each other and it is meant to be then you will be together whether it takes another six months or a year to make sure. Be cautious now if you are intending this to be your one and only marriage for life.
2007-03-18 13:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! the best Advice I can give u, is do not marry anyone if ur not 100% sure
u might need time to think over this, but i would say that if u love him, b4 marrying him, live with him for at least a year. If living with him goezz well, then u guyzz r ready to marry with no problem
that would give u an idea of what is like to b married to that someone =]
2007-03-18 13:53:20 · answer #3 · answered by Alice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is ANY doubt, either postpone it, or don't do it at all. I knew there were differences with us, and his mom was pressuring us to marry before I wanted to. I didn't find out till shortly into the marriage exactly where our differences were. Don't go into a marriage unless you know WITHOUT A DOUBT that it is the right thing to do.
2007-03-18 15:08:59 · answer #4 · answered by sassynsweet1221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really having second thoughts about this. Do not marry him. If you are asking yourself this question. Do not marry him. Dont force yourself to marry him because people are so excited for you, the planning.. or everything that has to do with a wedding. This is your future, make your choice right. Or you will regret it in the end.
2007-03-18 13:54:25 · answer #5 · answered by :] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not sure about him and you dont know if he is the right one for you or not then do not marry him at this time. You want to make sure he is the right one for you and for your life before taking the plunge into marriage. Slow down and do not marry for now. Good luck to you. At least postpone the wedding for now.
2007-03-18 14:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn, Gerri. One would think you would be intelligent enough to know if you should or should not get married. You can read through all of this Yahoo bullshit you like but in the end you're still going to have to ask yourself, "Do I really want to marry this person?"
2007-03-18 13:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by Disco Mudda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well at least you haven't walked down the aisle yet, it may just be cold feet, or you are realizing that you may not be able to succeed in this relationship. Maybe you need more time, if this feeling makes you shake inside, then that's a sign that it is not right. Sometimes we just have to listen to our inner self.
2007-03-18 13:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by Vegas 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should NOT marry him; if you don't know if you are right for each other, you should postpone the wedding and figure it out first; do NOT go through with a marriage that you are not 100 percent sure of.
2007-03-18 13:48:39 · answer #9 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem, but I married him and 5 months in am miserable. He is my best friend, but I dont think I should have made him my husband.
2007-03-18 20:06:08 · answer #10 · answered by t0nst3rs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋