I posted this yesterday:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AkuzwEdY2Nx6fsB5KWMYXpPsy6IX?qid=20070317150343AA4vu8h
It's just a short summary of what's been going on.
I still haven't heard from him. For the past 5 days, I only had a 5 minute conversation with him. Yes, his grandma has been in the hospital and everything... but would it really kill him to just call me back for like 2 minutes?! I mean gosh, we usually talk everyday.
I am THIS close to calling him. But something is pulling me back.
What should I do??
2007-03-18 13:31:59 · 22 answers · asked by Rita 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Last Thursday was the last time I heard from him.
2007-03-18 13:33:46 · update #1
as someone who knows what your going through and have made alot of mistakes in the past...just give him his space and if he does call dont but dont bring it up...AND if he DOESNT CALL move on yes it will hurt but in the long run maybe its a sign of things to come..because you never know if the next one could be the ONE. good luck in everything
2007-03-18 13:43:59 · answer #1 · answered by shy_bell80 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want him to break up with you give him his space. You are being inconsiderate of him and his family, your making this about you when it has nothing to do with you at all! He is probably angry at you for being inconsiderate. I am not saying this to be rude to you but it really is the truth.
I remember when my daughter was having open heart surgery, I spent all of my time with her naturally. Finally when all was well I was able to visit with one of my friends and the first thing she said to me after she found out about the surgery was, "why couldn't you call ME?" She was actually hurt and I told her that I had to be with my daughter and didn't have the time to call anyone else. Don't ask me why I didn't call you, ask me how my child is doing? Ask me if this is going to be the last time she has surgery? Ask me if I am ok with this but don't ask me why I couldn't call you.....
So to your question....gosh will you die before he calls you? Are you on fire? Are you so important in his life that when you are well and doing fine, YOU should come before his sick grandmother? No your not! "ME" is a selfish word and if you plan to spend the rest of your life with this person you need to understand that "ME" doesn't always come first.
Now if you want to help him or something, why not go buy the family some Krispy Kreme doughnuts, or bake them a cake and drop it by and make sure not too stay too long. Or you could buy a card and let him know you really care and are thinking of HIM by dropping it in the mail to him. Or do any other type of kindness to let him and his family know you are there for them in their time of need....this is the respect he deserves. This is the type of things that would be expected of you if you were his wife and you need to realize this if that is your plans, if its not too late for you.
Oh and my gosh, how in the world do you know that he isn't capable of getting on the Yahoo Answers and seeing what you wrote? Can you imagine the hurt he feels....especially after at least 35 comments of people telling you to chill? No wonder he hasn't spoken to you! Girl where is your head????????
2007-03-18 20:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by Kellie~Baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I stated before...he'll call you when he is ready. He has lots to deal with right now. Maybe, he is in no mood to make small talk and doesn't wish to talk with anyone not closely attached to his grandmother, at the moment. If you are thinking about him instead of yourself you will respect his wishes. Have you sent his grandmother a card? I think this may be a good idea.
2007-03-18 20:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is from a close family and is very close to his grandmother, what do you think he thinks of you asking him to drop off a broken camera? He would most likely view your request as uncaring, so I am not surprised you have not heard from him. If he wants your involvement at this time he knows where you are so just back off a bit and let the family deal with the situation.
2007-03-18 20:37:18 · answer #4 · answered by auburn 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, with his grandma in the hospital he might be a bit preoccupied. You could call and ask him how she's doing and how he's doing as well. Things might have gotten worse so he might not be really calling anyone. Just call and touch base with him and then you'll know.
2007-03-18 20:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by Noelle S 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should probably wait a little while longer. Obviously he is upset over his grandma. And really, he might be more worried about his grandma than to talk to you. She is really close to him and he has known her way longer.
2007-03-18 20:38:24 · answer #6 · answered by freakishrockstar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like something else is going on with him other than his Grandma.
I'm not one to put up with much crap, so if it were ME, I would leave him one last message telling him to either call me tonight or I have no other choice than to consider this relationship over.
2007-03-18 20:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by Pom♥Mom Spay and Neuter 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well how many timezz hav u called him?
that matterzz a lot.
u gotta relize that his gradma is in d hospital, maybe he doeznt rest or stuff like that u kno?
so if itzz been few timezz that u've caled him, try calling him, if u've called him more then 5 timezz, then wait for his call. if he doeznt call, whenevr he doezz, ask him why he didnt call
hope I gave good advice =]
laterzz
*Alizz*
2007-03-18 20:39:48 · answer #8 · answered by Alice 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're creeping him out by being a stalker. Back off.
2007-03-18 20:35:45 · answer #9 · answered by Paul B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is you should just give him his space. He knows you called and he'll call you when he's ready.
2007-03-18 20:35:18 · answer #10 · answered by Nico 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋