What to do if your really ugly?

Question

I am really ugly and I hate looking in the mirror. I am debating whether or not to die, because I know I will never have friends, especially a girl friend. I have tried improving my apperence but it does not work. What should I do?

Answer 1

Theres lots of things you can do to make things better. I once knew this ugly guy who had a very pretty wife. He had birth defects. But his attitude was so good its like no one noticed.
But besides attitude you could go talk to places that do makeovers and have someone style you so you feel better about how you look. Let them redo your hair, clothes and maybe school you on how to come across to women. Look at steve tyler man, he is one ugly dude...so is keith richards. Its not about looks its about attitude, ability and self confidence.

Answer 2

Hew now, cheer up here's an answer i pasted from another question:

Hey there now - here is some advice from me that you might find insightful. I am a former model and my boyfriend now for over a year, who I love to pieces is 300lbs and some ladies might say that he is unattractive but here's the deal: Some girls are rude, in fact, unfortunalety, a lot of people are rude and shallow. If a girl actually has substance to her then she'll realize that there is so much more to a person that how they look on the outside; the quality within is paramount and if a girl can't appreciate that then she doesn't deserve your time. Looks should not matter so much. I have always (except for two) dated and maintained serious relationships with less than perfect looking guys because I have found that they treat me vastly better and are more appreciative. What attracts women to men is genuine caring, (women can smell a guy that's just looking to get laid 10 miles away) self confidence (just the right balance of humility, yet not so confident that they seem cocky), and a great sense of humor, a gentlman-like demeanor, and good personal hygiene habits. A girl that is worth your time will be responsive and will appreciate a compliment even if it is from a guy is a wheelchair or an amputee. They are lovable people too and if they took the time to give a girl a compliment the least she can do is be a lady and say thank you in a kind and genuine way. Look at this trait in women as a good thing: it screens out the shallows, the flakes, and the ones that probably aren't worth your time. However, gentlemanly persistence does pay off, it just has to be done correctly. I wish more women would be more open to dating unattractive or older guys and i wish more guys would be the same. There are some wonderful people out there that you'd swear had a heart of gold and that you don't know why they'd love you so sweetly. I still am crazy about my boyfriend and the way he treats me. I feel so lucky. Good luck with this.

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Answer 3

Whoa there bud! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, just because you dont think your a hottie, doesnt mean there is not some girl out there, that wont. Luckily for you, as women get older and wiser, they care far less about looks, and far more about the character of a potential mate. I have always found it hillarious when people tell me that my husband doesn't look like someone Id be with- because to me, he's the most attractive person in the whole world- he completes me! Dont sell yourself short, ok? Looks arent everything, trust me. If you really cant value yourself without improving your appearance, then here's my advise: Go to the gym everday. Go to a dermatologist. Go to a cosmetologist. Go to the tannery. Look into plastic surgery. And after you have done all these things, and you are "beautiful", then maybe you can focus on what really matters; who you are inside. God made you just exactly the way he chose; and He loves you; and he doesnt make mistakes. Maybe you should lean your head in prayer and ask Him to show you the way. What is it he wants to grow out of you, through this experience? I know that the world can be a cruel place, but dont let that stop you from finding the true meaning behind why God gave you this life. And dont you dare throw it away! Ya know, I can remember a time when I was in 6th grade, when I was pretty "ugly" and homely. And it did make me feel really bad. Im older now(31) and I am a cosmetologist; I love to make people look their very best. I wish I could personally help you, but it's hard over the computer..so call the nicest salon/dayspa in your town, and be honest. And for heavens sake, dont let it ruin your life! It's only looks!

Answer 4

look nobody is ugly
they maybe unnattractive to them in their eyes
but guess what they are just jerks
Ppl will like u for who u are and not what u look like
there are people who think they are better than others and are more out and open but everyone is beautiful in there own and special way. Never put urself in a bad position. Try to make ur lyfe the best. We only have one life on earth and we need to enjoy it. Dont worry about all the negative things people have to say about you. They cant judge anybody because God didnt make anybody perfect. The only real advice is to join social activities. Maybe youll meet some friends guys and girls. See if they really like you for who you are

See a couple years ago i used to think i was ugly but then i realized that i am not. Ppl are going to talk about me for the rest of my life and i cant do anything about. Now that i have confidence in myself and learn how to talk back i had 4 boyfriend in the 2006.

Answer 5

are you serious? i'm going to take a gamble and take you seriously.

first of all, "ugly" and "beautiful" are relative terms. that is, what you think is "ugly," might be considered "beautiful" by others. also, we are much harsher on ourselves than we should be. give yourself a break.

but let's consider the remote possibility that many people would consider you physically unattractive. why would that prevent you from having friends? for most decent people, what a person looks like is simply a detail that loses significance over time to more important details (e.g. trust, kindness). anyone who chooses friends based on looks is immature and i'd question his or her integrity.

as for finding a girlfriend, attraction works differently for everyone. but look around you. beautiful people are not the only ones who find love. let that be proof enough that love isn't based simply on looks. concentrate less on improving your appearance and work on highlighting your strengths. you'll have a better chance at a more meaningful relationship.

good luck.

Answer 6

Well, I'm sure we all know that you gotta love yourself before you can expect others to feel the same way. Nobody is perfect. I know it seems that way on TV and ads that are put in our face everyday but it's not reality. I think you should open up and talk to someone you trust. Maybe a parent or whomever and I'm sure if they knew how big of a problem it is causing you, they would be more than happy to help. Personally, I don't think beauty has anything to do with looks. You just need to keep your head high and learn to accept yourself for how you are. If other people see how you take pride in yourself then they will follow.

*Best Wishes*

Answer 7

First of all....what makes you think your ugly? Maybe it's just you thinking you are and no one else does...or maybe some people do..but not everyone. As you get older you'll realize that, yes, looks do help a lot. BUT making someone laugh and being a good person really is what it's all about. I've dated some really amazing looking people but their looks didnt make me stay with them...the people that I've stayed with and care the most about were not the best looking but the one I could call at 2am because of a bad dream and they'd make me laugh. Don't be so down on yourself. I suspect that you are your worst critic. Having self confidence makes EVERYONE attractive....no mater what you look like.

Answer 8

I bet you are not ugly!! you just think that way
when you are older if you want you can get a Dr to make you look better
get some counselling to make yourself feel better for now & as you grow you get nicer looking as well & yes you will get a girlfriend one day i promise
there is always somebody if you know how to tell when you are liked
start liking yourself & a girl will start to see you are a positive happy person & start to like you as well
have a look at this link with this happy song
http.www.superlaugh.com-1-behappy.swf

Answer 9

You're too negative. You're giving out that vibe. Lol, you think Chris Rock is cute? I don't think so! He's sooo ugly. But he has a sense of humor and that's what makes him attractive.
My cousin isn't very handsome. He has acne, ugly hair, and terrible clothes. But I know he can look good with a new haircut, some new clothes, and instead of buying stupid stuff on ebay all the time, he can buy himself some proactiv and a new wardrobe. He bought the stuff and was looking better. But he thought it was a waste of money so he stopped. Now he's full of pimples.
You have to be positive and show people that even if you don't have the looks, you have other things to offer.
Good luck.

Answer 10

Well for one your not going at it the right way. Yu should dress to impress and work hard to be nice and volunteer, and also try helping anyone and everyone. First you will find friends and then then a girl will be impressed with you and then you have a gf. Doesn't matter what you look like, or who you are you should never get yourself down and you shold never quit. SO go out walk with your head held high and who cares what people ssay . You are better than them.