My daughter friend is 14 and she snuck out of the house and was out past 1:00 AM in a car with 3 older teenage boys. She covered pillows on her bed so it looked like someone was in the bed. Her mom keeps asking myself and my husband for advice because our 14 year old daughter is well behaved. I told them our daughter would be seeing anyone or talking to anyone or visiting anyone or watching TV or playing on the internet for at LEAST a month. I feel what that girl did was serious. She endangered her own life. But her parents think it is harsh. What do you think?
2007-03-18 13:28:44 · 13 answers · asked by Kel Kel 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
In response to the question about my daughter........ trust me. she is well behaved. My husband is in the process of becoming a police officer here and his friends are all police here. (Small town) And most of his friends work the night shift. She KNOWS she cant get away with sneaking out. LOL And she KNOWS her punishment will not be worth whatver fun she might have had had sneaking out. She is also a smart girl. She knows she should be afraid of people who lurk in the dark and she knows it is dangerous for a child to be out after dark.
2007-03-18 13:45:50 · update #1
You know what........ I said my daughter is well behaved. I have to withdrawl that.
She is a good kid. But she isnt perfect. She is a teen after all. I dont want to give anyone the false idea I have blindfolds on and think she is perfect.
2007-03-18 13:47:02 · update #2
OMG i am not a harsh person i think and am currently pregnant with my first child and if it turns out to be a girl and she did that she would not be allowed anywhere for atleast a year. i would also take away all her luxuries for atleast three months. or until she realises just how serious this was she could have been seriously injured or worse dead. i am so worried for this girl i hope her parents see the light and hand down the appropriate punishment.
2007-03-18 16:55:39 · answer #1 · answered by Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am having the same problem with my daughter,I posted a similar question on answers. Alot of people always try to make it seem as if you had to be the deep rooted cause of
why your daughter is acting out. I would ground her a month as well. I am putting a lock on my window to keep my daughter in. I also hear there are alarms that you can put on the window. I grounded her and threatened her with sending her to the Job Corp and she wouldn't graduate, she would
probably get a GED. Now she is really trying to earn my trust back because she scared that I'm gonna send her miles
away from home with strangers. Climbing out the window is just one of the thing that my daughter has done. Thats why I was so harsh on her.
2007-03-18 21:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
. Some parents want to be their child's friend not their parents.Kids are going to do stupid things sometimes, it's our job as parents to make sure they learn from those mistakes and never do it again. So in answer to your question: No, I do not think the punishment is too severe I think it's much better than a pregnant 14 year old. Do her parents know what she was doing in that car at 1A.M. probably not and they probably don't want to. Tell them to talk to the school nurse about the increase in teen and yes pre-teen pregnancies. Not to mention the increase in STD's among middle & high schoolers (Syphilis, Gonerea, & HIV). They need to be aware of the long tern consequenses of not punishing their daughter unless they relish the idea of someone calling them Grandma & grandpa.
2007-03-19 00:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by candy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so easy to be harsh and respond harshly until it happens to you! i agree with the month long grounding, but you also should have a TALK with her why she should not be out at that time. Why is she sneaking out...to have sex, just to be defiant, or just a teenage thing? I wish you the best of luck. I know raising kids especially in this day and age is soooo hard. It is hard to be a parent, and it is hard to be a kid!
2007-03-18 22:55:11 · answer #4 · answered by David A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two weeks is probably better If she already snuck out once she will sneak out again and a month will probably do more to try your friends will then punish her daughter
2007-03-18 20:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by Vultureman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep I agree with you a month of no life should help put her back in line. They better do something cause if not that girl is gonna figure out real fast she is ruling that house!
2007-03-18 20:35:40 · answer #6 · answered by got all I need 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is that your daughter is well behaved or just so good she hasn't been caught?? And yeah a month sounds about right
2007-03-18 20:39:05 · answer #7 · answered by anthonymperkins05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont just punish your daughter.Confront the people she got in the car with and talk to there parents.
2007-03-18 22:48:24 · answer #8 · answered by big_rodney101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is serious and I would say 1 month plus maybe an essay explaining what could have happened.
2007-03-18 20:47:30 · answer #9 · answered by kattsmeow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a good enough punishment for what she have done. If her parents think that is too harsh, they must be slack parents.
2007-03-18 20:37:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋