he is a liar, hyprocrite, self concided, violent, emotional and verbally abusive and of course i'm no longer with him but i cant get him out of my heart and it hurts so much.help.
2007-03-18 13:26:32 · 10 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Busy yourself with work, housework, kids, etc. Tell yourself you deserve better(which you do)! As soon as you've healed sufficiently, date again. No cure for a heartache, like a new love.
2007-03-18 13:31:14 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It takes a while. You invested your time and emotions into this creep so you will have to be patient. It's like the person you knew died. You are grieving right now.
I think you should spend some energy focusing on other people and their problems. It will help people in need and it will make you feel sooooo good. Check out www.volunteermatch.org There are not for profits in every conceivable field , you will find something that interests you.
Right now is not the time to jump into another relationship. Yo need to be done with grieving the last one and all the baggage that came with it needs to be cleaned out before you move on to another. Keep your chin up. Good luck.
2007-03-18 20:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by Tip Top 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling.....i am in the same boat.....but with the added attachment of a child by him. (due in may).
I think a friend of mine said it best when he said that I suffered from "Battered ***** Syndrome".
Arent we pathetic?
Actually, I have now gotten to the point where I nearly hate him. So i am definately making progress.
Time will do the same for u. U will be able to make a clean break, and find someone who will treat u good.
I on the other hand will have a lifelong connection with him. Not that i wont move on, I will, but i wish I could have made a clean break as well.
So, keep ur head up.....it could be worse.
Good luck to u hun......and burn that bridge and dont look back.
2007-03-18 20:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart cant help who it loves, but your mind can forget.
Just finding someone new to replace him cant replace someone you love. Activities can distract you, but it doesn't erase his memories running across your mind.
I know you don't want to love him, and you hurt because you don't understand how you could possibly love him.
But don't feel bad, that you love someone who doesn't love you back, it isn't wrong.
Someday you will have someone better, but don't go looking, to get this man out of your heart, let love find you and capture your heart and I know that you will be able to love again.
Good luck Sweetie
2007-03-18 21:25:10 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie_ is_ bomb. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woman seem like you have dated the devil and somehow got him caught in your heart. i don,t like hypocrite, self centered people, or violent people, who could blow up someday and maybe kill someone, his qualities are bad and I'm wondering how a woman could have feeling for a gerk like you have described, i always heared love is blind and now I'm convinced it"s true for sure. my advise to you find a man who has feeling and caring and humble and is not self centered, who in their right mind could care for such a man as you havedescribed? there would have to be some good real men in the world who knows how to love and treat a woman , and also to be humble and caring and not selfish and violent.
2007-03-18 20:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
time heals all wounds. join a club, go on a trip, go out with old friends, make new friends. keeping yourself occupied is the best answer. best of luck
2007-03-18 20:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by simplyme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its hard to give up someone we were with for so long, even if they didn't treat us very well. yes it will hurt for a time, but as time goes by u will begin to feel better, and hopefully understand why your not with him anymore.
2007-03-18 20:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep busy working, with your friends, on hobbies; your heart will follow your head, give it a little time and you'll be asking yourself why the heck you ever were involved with him to begin with
2007-03-18 20:30:36 · answer #8 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you spent way too much time with him. The moment you found out about these negative character traits, you should have left him. Get yourself a decent Christian guy.
2007-03-18 20:31:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
date another man
2007-03-18 20:31:34 · answer #10 · answered by Future Basketball Playa #3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋