A 2 year old that hits, what to do?

Question

My son hits my wife, and I need to fix this before it gets worse. He doesnt do it to me, but then again im not around him all day while working. It might have something to do with a 3.5 year old neice that she babysits, but i need to discover the best way to teach a 2y.o. to not hit, and i surely dont want to spank him for hitting, thats the wrong message. Thanks!

Answer 1

even at two years old you can talk to a child and explain that hitting is wrong. why don't you try referring to his mother as YOUR wife. that way he wont see her as his property to hit. so instead of saying "Son, please don't hit your mother its not nice and hurts her feelings" say " Son, she is my wife i don't appreciate you hitting her" please don't yell if your going to yell take a few seconds and breathe then say that or something along those lines. just be very clear and assertive, not aggressive. and hopefully things should turn around for you and your family.

Answer 2

I spanked my children, both of them, sometimes together. Spanking is not bad if you can control your anger.
A 2 yr old is going through the terrible 2's. And some stay there for yrs like my daughter.
Nothing worked on her except making her sit in a chair in the corner, no talking allowed for 5 minutes. That's really hard for a 2 yr old too!
Every child is different and you have to do what works on that child. For example, all my dad would have to do to me when I was a kid was give me "his look" I knew what that meant.
Children also tend to take advantage of their mother's niceness.
Maybe your wife doesn't sound strict enough with him in her voice when she talks to him.
I had a cousin who hit his mother. He is now a doctor! But they taught him responsibility when he was growing up, Pick up your toys, he got a job mowing yards when he was very young, he was an Eagle Scout. His parents SPENT TIME WITH HIM.
Maybe grab his hands and tell him "NO, that is not nice" Kids are like training a dog. No kidding! It works. And a 2 yr old is a handful. You have to constantly stay on them.
I used to get out in the yard or on the floor and play with my kids. Now we are close. My son would brush my hair! He is a sweetie.
They grow up fast. So let him know you mean business, but show him all the love in the world.
He will be fine.

Answer 3

A definite time-out for a set period of time or make him sit on the bottom step of an inside staircase for a specified period of time and then make him apologize. Keep doing it until he gets the message. You're right to nip this in the bud, because if you don't, it will only get worse.

Answer 4

No one ever likes my answer, lol. I had a kid that tried this. I tried time outs. I tried talking. I tried taking toys away. Finally I got pregnant and couldn't allow hitting, especially in my stomach area. Every time she hit me... I would stay calm, non emotional and I said (lots of words dont' work with kids)... "you stand here." 'good, now, i am going to show you how that feels'. I hit her in the same spot she hit me. Sounds mean, but abstract punishments didnt' work... and she quit within a week and has never hit me since.

Answer 5

spanking is something we all use it not the wrong m,essage after the spank the message might get to his brain to stop hitting or daddy will spank you

Answer 6

I would suggest that whenever he hits her, she (or you) should grab his fist, look him in the eye and say calmly "dont hurt mommy" and then give him a timeout.

Answer 7

you need to let him know that hitting is nice and its wrong. if he continues to hit you need to take somethimg away from him that he enjoys or put hin in time out.

Answer 8

Good old fasioned country *** beating wouldnt hurt!