my best friend is 16 and pregnant what she tell her parents and how help please !
2007-03-18 13:13:48 · 16 answers · asked by Kelsey C 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
There are many support groups and people, like myself even, who would offer to help her through this difficult (Even joyous time).
May I suggest she contact her local church family and ask for their help? I attend a Calvary Chapel fellowship and I am sure that if she contacted one of those churches, someone would help her. Here is a link.
http://www.calvarychapel.com/?show=Churches
All she would have to do is put her zip code in and find a Calvary Chapel fellowship near her. If there isn't one, for some reason, then she could try her local Baptist or Presbyterian churches too.
There are so many organizations that can help her discern her way through the careful choice of keeping her baby and maybe even gifting her baby over to a loving and more readily equipped mother and father.
There is an organization called BIRTHRIGHT that will even throw a baby shower for her to help her collect all the things she needs for her newborn. Police stations sometimes have car seats to give away. Tell her to not lose hope and to not be scared. There will be a lot required of her, but there will be a lot of people to help her as well.
Maybe if she gets information from people like this and develops a bit of a "plan" she will feel more confident and comfortable about sharing her news with her parents.
This baby has no voice at this time. His or her mommy is their voice. It is a huge responsibility, but when those little fingers and toes make their way into the world... somehow a mom always manages to find the courage and strength she needs to do what is best for her baby.
PS My mother got pregnant with me at 15, had me at 16. Is still married to my biological father and I am not 38 and doing very well. ---Point being? It can be done.
2007-03-18 13:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by NONAME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is her problem. Not to sound mean. But she should be the one to tell her parents.
Just be there to listen to her when she needs you.
There is no best way, but to sit them down and be serious. She took an adult responsibility by not protecting herself. Now she must take the right step and go foreward. Everyone is different.
My niece was 15 and now she has 3 children. She got married, the guy was wanting to marry her anyway. Guess they speeded things up. It's working for them, but they are making it work. Which that's what marriage & parenthood is.
Hopefully this guy that got her pregnant will step up to his responsibility too.
Best of luck.
2007-03-18 13:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by Momwithaheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to face the music and be firm on what she really wants and is best for the baby. If it were me I would without a doubt decide to keep the baby. You just gotta be strait with the parents. Give them the F you type of attitude torwards keeping it if you really want the baby. Do whatever it takes.
Try talking to your schools concealer to help ease your mind maybe just a little.
2007-03-18 13:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She just needs to come out and tell them. Not beat around the bush either. Her parents will have more respect for her if she tells them right away. If they are good, loving parents, they will help her out...they'll probably be mad and angry first...but she has to face that. She decided she was adult enough to have sex... now she has to be an adult in facing her responsibility.
2007-03-18 13:20:56 · answer #4 · answered by fromthecabbagepatch 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your friend really you???
SHe need to sit down with them and tell them whats going on. They will find out anyway. She can't hide the belly for ever and what happens when the baby comes? Take her to counceling and get her some help.
2007-03-18 13:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
SHE SHOULD JUST TELL THEM IF THEY WOULD KICK HER OUT MAKE SURE THERE ARE PLANS FOR HER TO STAY SOMEWHERE FOR A COUPLE OF DAYS TO LET THE PARENTS COOL DOWN. MAYBE SHE MIGHT CONSIDER ADOPTION I HAD MY FIRST AT 17 AND WISH I HAD MORE TIME TO BE AN ADULT FIRST GOOD LUCK HER MUM WILL HELP HER IN THE END
2007-03-18 13:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, she should actually be responsable and have a serious discussion with her parents. The final decision should remain to her tho. Hiding it won't make it easier.
2007-03-18 13:18:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest, but be ready for them to freak out big time. having sex in an adult decision so now it's time to act like an adult and take responsibility for the decisions made. You as her friend just need to be there for her, she's gonna need a good friend to turn to
2007-03-18 13:27:36 · answer #8 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to tell her parents soona nd not wait because the longer she waits the more she has to wait to see their reaction and they might not want her to have the baby but they might get madd at first but be understanding after a while but it depends on how they feel about the situation
2007-03-18 13:15:52 · answer #9 · answered by nana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should tell her parents that she is pregnant and could they help her choose a name and take her to prenatal checkups.
2007-03-18 13:17:25 · answer #10 · answered by toe poe gee gee oh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋