My ex left me to be with a one night stand, this girl embodied everything he said he never wanted. But she had his child. This happened before him and I got togehter. He was sooooooo depressed over her having the child, because he was ashamed. He frowned upon things like that and girls like that. Yet, he was at fault as well. When he went to be a part of the child's life, he decided to work things out with the mom. Well, I flipped out on him and told him in many horrible words what I thought of him. I never cursed or swore at him. But certainly did after. ANd he told me I verbally abused him!!??? And he couldn't beleive that I was like that, and that he didn't care for girls that cursed. However, it's ok for him to have casual UNPROTECTED sex with some girt he met one night. Was he defended himself, grasping for straws?? Or was he manipulating me into feeling bad or guilty? Or both. They are not together anymore, shockingly. but when I called him out on all this, he was very cold.
2007-03-18 13:05:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You already named that tune. Both. He is defensive and should need a good defense for a cheap one night stand. His tactics are to turn the attention back to your supposed problems when he has no right to pick anyone apart for any reason. He put you at risk for STD's and he could also father another child being as irresponsible as he was. Don't let this loser put you down. He learned that turning the table trick from someone who probably raised him and it won't work on you anymore now that you have his number. You can do better and you know it. Good luck. @8-)
2007-03-18 13:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
particular you are able to "kill em with kindness" yet too plenty kindness can resurrect and bring them back to life. he's in all possibility getting blended messages from you like you're attempting to come back jointly. How ever you do communicate with him, make certain that he's conscious which you merely choose to be acquaintances and any animosity desires to be placed to relax so as that he provides you up the immature habit and flow on together with his lifelike you have accomplished with yours.
2016-12-18 17:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mia, Mia,
You are obsessed! How many questions have you posted today? If you don't stop thinking about this guy, you're going to absolutely drive yourself crazy! He is so not worth it.
2007-03-18 13:20:36 · answer #3 · answered by JOURNEY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You had every right to do what you did. He's a jerk, and did not deserve you. I really hope you find a good guy soon--just not too soon--don't let it be a rebound--they don't work.
2007-03-18 13:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to leave him because he cheated on you, then do it. but if you forgive him and still want to be with him, understand what he's going through right now, he's angry with himself for what he did, and resents it, you need to comfort him not yell at him.
2007-03-18 13:40:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont make him feel guilty for something he did in the past; people make mistakes, so what, live and let live.
2007-03-18 13:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by KerryK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋