Why are most men users and players?

Question

A friend of mine has just found out that the guy she is seeing is living with a new girl. He doesn't know she even knows. She is keeping that info to herself for some reason, even though its killing her. She loves this guy more thatn anything, but she can't deal with this info. I think she should tell him....What does everyone else think?

Answer 1

I think you are wrong to say that " most men users and players". I'm not, but there are quite a few low life scumbags that are. I don't care how much your friend likes the guy, she should dump him and get someone who appreciates and deserves her. This other low life has shown that he doesn't and if she hangs on to him she's just asking for more heartbreaks. He's not gonna change.
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Answer 2

men are users and players because women seem to enjoy that kind of treatment

look at your friend for example
is she acting on the info she has? NO
is she doing anything about it? NO
is she cursing him out? NO
is she trashing his stuff? NO
is she dumping him? NO

she loves him more than anything and what is she doing? absolutely nothing, she is still sticking with him and trying to figure out what to do about it because the logical choice of DUMPING HIM is not a good choice since she is not doing it
why is she not dumping him? perhaps because she is trying to figure out a way to bring up the issue so that he will still stay with her and she will still have him

that is what most women want, they want the drama and all the BS, for some reason or another they thrive from it

geeeeee, he is cheating on me, but i love him so much i can't just let him go, it doesn't matter that there are guys out there that would treat me good, in fact i was dating a guy like that but he was boring so i found this guy now and he makes me happy because he is not boring because he cheats on me so i will stay with him no matter what.

that sounds like an all too familiar story

so here is another question

why are MOST (not all) women so stupid that they will let themselves be used and played and abused?

why are MOST (not all) women such hypocritical liars by claiming that they want a nice guy but always seem to go after the bad boy and stick with him?

its easy to see that most men are users and abusers and players because most women get off on that stuff

actually sounds kind of interesting, perhaps i should just be a prick to women and then maybe i'll have a couple of girlfriends instead of none because the good guy routine really aint getting me anywhere

but then again, i don't think the little girl that i am raising would apreciate the women that i would atract with that

Answer 3

I really do not know why this is but there are also alot of women who are users and players as well. Not all men are players and users though as my husband is not one. There are actually some good guys out there believe it or not so we cannot stereotype or put all men in that category. Your friend needs to let this guy go and find a good and decent guy down the road to date someday. She will be much better off without him trust me. She deserves better then this. Here comes lots of hugs for her today. Yes she should be honest and tell him how she feels and what she knows and then she needs to dump his lousy butt and move on with her life without him in it.

Answer 4

I disagree with your question. Most men are not users and players - just the immature ones. And the answer to your question about why most immature men are users and players is due to the fact that they haven't grown up enough to know right from wrong. As far as your friend, she needs to dump the guy and quit worrying about telling him anything. Why would she want a guy that she knows uses women?

Answer 5

I think she should tell him that he's a piece of s**t. Move on because not all men are players and users. There are quite a few but you just have to look. I think women settle afraid that they will miss there one true chance. Finding that special guy may take some time. It's well worth the wait. In between time find yourself.

Answer 6

Men are players because.........look at overpaid sports figures reverred as Gods and paid more than teachers, firemen and law enforcement officers.
Its because society allows it, men like to play with balls, they feel power and control from being players and it is allowed in society, even as far back as ancient times, men loved to play and be players. It doesnt matter what kind of balls, footballs, soccer balls, baseballs, basketballs, tennis balls, golf balls, even weights and discus anything they can have power over. You asked why are men players blame sports and it goes back to the ancients.
However....not all men fall into this pattern, but eveyone has a vice of some sort.

Answer 7

Men get a bad rap. I think that MOST men are really good people. The ones that are users and players just mess it up for the good guys.

Sounds like your friend however has a user and a player. I couldn't keep that information to myself. I'd have to talk to him.

Answer 8

I would definitely bring it to his attention. But first she has to make sure that she has all of her facts straight so that it doesn't backfire on her. But me with my devious self, I would find out the new address and wait until I knew that he wasn't home and go over there to talk with the new girl.

After we talked, I would sit right there and wait for him to get home. The element of surprise is a mother. And he would not be able to deny either of the relationships.

It would hurt to find out, but at least she took it right to him and there would be no way fro him to get out of it.

Answer 9

Doesn't your friend have an ounce of self respect? Regardless of whether she tells him or not she should find SOMEONE ELSE that actually would be willing to LOVE her rather than screw around on her.

Answer 10

I would show up on the doorstep with his crap in a bag and throw it at him and leave.
But, not before i explained why i did it to the live in gf.
Good luck.