Im 16, about a month ago my parents found a picture of me with a boy at a sweet sixteen with his arms around me. I have no intimate relation with him other then friend, and he has none for me. My parents have always been strict, like any other paki girls parents. This has lead me to depression and being lonely all the time. All of my friends are cacausian and catholic and I cant change that. I know the culture is different, but I want to go to an upcoming sweet sixteen. I missed a few already, and I keep feeling like I'm missing out and been strong about it. I dont know what it will take to have them let me go? I cant ever go out on friday nights, I always have to stay at home with the family while my friends are out. I feel so depressed that I even have suicidal thoughts sometimes. Please someonehelp me.
2007-03-18 12:44:18 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
sweety, hav n't you already asked this question. This is no reason to want to commit suicide. My best advice to you at this stage is to apply to a university/college that is far away from home and then you'll get all the freedom you want. For now though you need to find a friend they can trust and ask them if you can stay over at her house. Never mention parties just say its a sleep over (that was my trick). That should work wonders. I have alot of pakistani friends in your position but because they socialise with other muslims they don't feel as bad about the situation and they always have someone that understands. try and meet some other pakistani girls. Its always good to have fiends from differnt backgrounds!
2007-03-18 13:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by Zaina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, kid, just try telling your mom the truth. 99% of the time, she's the one gonna bend, eventually. (1% of the time, she's worse than the dad, ...?)
You probably gonna have to miss some sweet sixteens I guess but get yourself more involved in other stuff like sports, academic clubs, or get a job. Sorry its not fair but at 16 its not like you can leave home and get a full time job.
Don't kill yourself. Feel free to e-mail me once and a while. I'm not gonna date you or anything, lol, (i'm like 40), I'm not perfect, but can be a friend.
P.S. Although he is not dating you or anything, he may in fact like you as more than a friend. Its been known to happen. That does not really matter of course, in that it takes two to tango. If you are not trying to date him, then, well, ...
2007-03-18 21:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by rostov 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds too phony this question to me. I know a lot of Pakistani people and an arm around a fellow friend is totally acceptable. Many of the educated Pakistani in US marry all kinds of others, including Catholics.
2007-03-18 20:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by James M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to your teacher, counsellors or some adult you can trust. there are even hot lines or websites that can help you. please look for help. don't give up!!
National Hotline: 800-SUICIDE
Youth Crisis Line: 800-HIT-HOME
2007-03-18 19:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by christian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋