Why do most married couples get divorsed so quick???

Question

not that i have been even in a relashonship!!! LOL!

Answer 1

maybe coz they rushed into things and now realized married life is not for them

Answer 2

A quick divorce is always a good way and less painful way of getting rid of the problems.

You see when 2 person could not stay married together for whatever reason, the prolongation of the divorce period in fact, will not bring 2 person together but more apart as the hatred and resentment will grow.

at one point of time, the government trying to cope with the rising divorce rate therefore forces people to allow a 4 years separation for contested divorces.

Personnally i felt that such situation will only cause more hatred as the longer the matter dwindle the more sobby tales comes out in court, where the dirty linen of each other is wash. more for the woman than the man apparently if you ask me. I do not why, perhaps woman are the stronger spieces where they are more emotional and they are even going to court in tears and sobby tales and lies. but as it is a family court, where there are usually no witness and it is one story against the other, the man therefore looses very miserably.
try sitting down for a day at the family court so that you can have a better understanding of the meaning of family dispute.

Yes, in many cases, man can be blame for being the guilty party, but then if you look into it......can the man be the sole person to be blame.

eg. a man divorce the wife whom is always not packing the house and not looking after the children well enough..... unfortunately, in the situation of MCYS, they claim that this is ok and not a ground........see this is what you get when you have young unmarried person working as counsellor and have no real life experience on what is marriage and lives.

so if both party is willing to take a open minded concept and get over the divorce and let the period of separation and divorce to allow them to freely live like mature adults.

imagine, then when both party could be friends, no control over each other than at the same time, even share the childhood experience between eachother even though they are divorce.

In this way, if they find that there is still love, they could still remarry again if they choose to rather than to continue in long fighting divorce

Answer 3

Everyone has their own different reasons. Most common tho i think is that they have either rushed into it and realised they cant live with each other OR they have never lived together and when they get married and move in they hate it.

Some people out there are just better off not married. I have friends hwo got divorced after 1 year of marriage however they went out for 7 years, now their back together but just not married and they seem happy.... Sometimes Marriage is just too much for people and they prefer just to stay a couple without the husband and wife title.

Answer 4

Not all are quick. I was married for 29 years before divorcing. I was a florist for many years and had the opportunity to meet many couples who were getting married and developed a theory. The ones where the bride and groom came together to pick out flowers stayed married but when a girl and her mom or friends came it didn't last long. I think a lot of young women are in love with the wedding and the idea of being married and are not ready for the reality at all. Being married is hard work and not easy if you really love your mate. It must be impossible if you didn't really know them and love them as much as you thought you did. Take a lesson here and the lesson is not to drag him along to order flowers. It's to really get to know the person and give yourself time to see if this is someone you can be with forever. Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 5

Because they get married for the wrong reasons. Also it is just too easy to get a divorce. Communication is the biggest thing in a marriage and when you loose that, it pretty much on the rocks.
Sex is the biggest thing that makes couples blind before marriage.
You have to really get to know the person your with and knowing their faults is hugh but being able to handle them is a greater challenge.
It is not a 50/50 relationship but rather a 100/100 type giving. If you can give it will be returned to you.
Likewise, because were all different, you have to know how to argue without hurting and be able to forgive without holding a grudge.
Last but not least "You have to Love the one your with".
I'm no Dr. Phil but I do know what it takes.

Answer 6

Because they want a way out instead of a way to make it work and they are looking for any excuse or reason to get out. Not right but thsi is usually why. Marriage means nothing to most people now a days. Very sad indeed if you ask me. We are making a mockery of marriages and what they are supposed to be. Why even marry in the first place if you are not gonna live by your vows and make the marriage work no matter what. People give up way to easily nowadays and instead of facing problems in the marriage and working them out and trying to stay together it seems much easier to run away and file for divorce and not face the problems and work on them. This is the cowards way out and is just wrong.

Answer 7

Because they:
1. Get married too quickly and for the wrong reasons.
2. Expect too much from a spouse and are willing to give too little.
3. Don't want to take the time to work at it and make it better.
4. Think they can change one another once they are married.
5. Don't share common values and faith.

There are a million reasons - the main one being that we have allowed this world to go to hell in the name of individualism and expressing ourselves and have forgotten that if God is not in the center of it, it will fall.

Answer 8

Because they rushed into the marriage too quickly, or perhaps they just weren't compatiable with one another anymore after dating for so long. Most people think after dating a few years, its time to get married or perhaps the right thing to do, most likely they'll rush into marriage if their is children. But, alot of people should wake up and realize, just because you may have children together, or you've shared a few years together, doesn't necassarily mean that your ready or compatiable to take the relationship to the next stage and get married. Take it from me, I got married very quickly because we thought that was the next best thing, and we seperated after only being married 2 1/2 months. Divorce sucks!

Answer 9

I am not too sure what you mean by quick. I have been married for 41 years and haven't divorced yet. Actually, I haven't even thought about it as being an option. I am one of the fools who love my partner and think that getting married to them was the best thing that ever happened to me.

Answer 10

I think it happens a lot because we pass up the one we were meant to be with looking for something more or different. We love someone along the way and lose them then we meet someone new and in a way attempt to settle. Eventually you discover you married the wrong person on down the line and it just falls apart at the seams.
-NmD!

Answer 11

mostly because couples nowadays get together without even knowing each other that well , they just jump at each others bed and when bussines is done, they dont care anymore for the other.also people are getting less tolerant today , they see a couple issue rising up , and first reaction is to go crazy , or look for another girl/boy.instead of frankly analyzing the whys.