Can me and my ex work things out?

Question

I have recently been seein my ex g/f alot,staying ova n sleeping together.we split up for me generly not being thee 4 her and hlping her when i should of been.Wecant seem to leave each other lone no matter how much we try,she has a littleboy who worships mr and me likewise.
I have stayed round haring her bed 4 the last 5 wk ends and we have slept 2gether several times.I wat us 2 b togeher again permanently i do love her so much.she says she dosent know if she wants t b with me like that again as she feels differenty now butthat she does want to and is trying to feel differently an she dosent wnt anyone else that if she wantsanyone its me.
I took her little boy out motheres day shopping then w spent the afternon with her parents before goig back to her house.
I feel so confused about what to do and how to win her back as she is the love of my life? lease can any1 help me? do i keep trin as i do love her so much or just leave it? any ideas or views of wats happening would b great.

Answer 1

well it sounds to me like she still has feelings for you, but if as you say you split up because you weren't there for her then maybe now's the time to start showing her you can be. if she felt nothing for you i don't think she would still be sleeping with you, also I'm a single mum and there's no way i would have a man around my son who i felt nothing for.

my advice, show her your the man for her, and her son, women especially mothers are looking for security. how ever you weren't there for her before be there for her now.

Answer 2

What about the things that made the two of you split up in the first place? Have you changed your behavior and are you now willing to help out wioth things and to be there with her and the child? If you can answer yes honestly to these things, then you might have a chance of making a go of it agian. But, you need to be a changed man from what you were before, or you will be risking not only hurting her again, but that innocent little boy who you claim worships you. Would you really want to hurt him?
Think long and serious and talk to g/f and tell her how you have changed and how things will be from now on...but be sure that you are prepared to carry through with them. Because if you screw up again...not only will you be hurting her...you will hurt that precious, innocent little boy who worships you...can you live with that????

Answer 3

Only you know why you both couldn't work things out before. I'm not getting the sense that she wants more than sex from you right now. It's possible that she still loves you but she's not sure that she can depend on you or trust you with her emotions. You have to spend time talking to her. Sex alone won't do it. Ask her what you would need to do make things work. Maybe in time, she will learn to trust you if you make a reasonable effort to show her that you mean business this time and that you will prove it through your actions.

Answer 4

It sounds to me as though she likes you for a fling and that is all. She doesn't want a relationship with you. You need to end this thing with her now before you and her son get any more attached to each other. It is also a bad example for the boy to have his mother bringing casual sex partners over. She shouldn't be introducing any man to her child unless she is having a serious relationship with the man (which is not the case with you). End it and move on.

Answer 5

well first you need to know that there is a spell check on your computer.
next thing in order is first you need to give each other some space to figure things out and stop playing. there's a little boy involved and if she's confused right now then you need to give her some space for the shake of your and her future.