My divorce will be final in 3 weeks. My ex has been telling me she meet someone and is in love which is fine. The other day I emaild her I wouldnt have any more contact with her but she could call me and say Hi anytime she wanted. She called right away. The day after she insisted I sign our final papers and she would turn them in on the due date. I agreed but told her I would sign only after getting stuff that was agreed would be returned to me. That day she inisted I sign first and I would receive my stuff later. All of this started the day after I quit whinning I wanted her back and let her know I was happy she found someone.. She has now inisted I have stuff that belongs to her, which we both know I dont (She couldnt even describe items) and today we were suppossed to meet to return my stuff and sign the paper. She called to cancel. Its seem she is putting off giving my stuff back because after that she would have no reason to contact me. Anyone have an idea on her behavior?
2007-03-18 12:36:22 · 5 answers · asked by PuckDog 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is nothing of real value or anything that someone else would want. Just stuff that belongs to me that I let her use when we first seperated
2007-03-18 12:52:56 · update #1
Women's ego's can be pretty big sometimes. We like to be desired, we like to be needed. She may have fallen in love with someone else, but its always nice to know someone is still holding a flame for us. Its our ego's, pure and simple, and I reckon thats whats happening in your situation. She couldnt have cared less when she knew you still cared.....and now that you have made it clear to her that you dont care and you just want to get everything over and done with, she is now seeing that she is losing control of you. He ego is bruised that you have stopped carrying a flame for her...well, thats what I think.
The only thing you can do is to confront her on this....make it plain that you no longer love her and you want to get on with your life.....maybe even ask her why she is dragging this process out....ask her does she still love you because thats the only reason you can see why she still wants to remain in contact with you. The very least it will do is embarrass her to stop this contact and allow you to get on with your life. Maybe even go as far as to tell her that any contact she wants with you will be through your lawyer....just make it clear to her, you no longer wish her to be part of your life.....and mean it.
It's time to really move on....she has found someone else and she doesnt need to keep on reminding you of what you both once had. Maybe change your phone number and like I said, any contact about possessions for her to please speak to your lawyer. Make it clear you are no longer in love with her because you are only feeding her ego if you continue to allow her to drag this process out.
Good luck, and I hope a wonderful woman will be around your next corner....you will find love again....probably better than anything you could imagine.....take care.
2007-03-18 12:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she probably likes your things and never intended to give them back. if they are items you can live without i would just sign the papers and be done with her.
2007-03-18 19:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesnt want to return the stuff. Reason unknown.
2007-03-18 19:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sold or thrown your things in the trash even worse she could have given your things to her new fling
2007-03-18 19:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's her way of being in control of you........
2007-03-18 19:45:45 · answer #5 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋