My husband is so demanding when it comes to sex...........?

Question

Ok, I'm only 21 & I have 1 kid who is 3. My husband & I were in a car accident 2 yr ago & he became paralyzed. So with that came the fact that we couldn't really have sex anymore. If his penis is hard (which is hardly ever but when it is there is always ppl and our kid around) we can have sex but it only stays hard for maybe 5 min. It may sound horrible but I'm ok with it & he still pleases me. However, he is so demanding when it comes 2 me letting him "touch" me. I mean I realize we have been 2 yr without real sex, but I just want him 2 understand that my vagina isn't made out of rubber that can be torn 2 crap every free second of the day. If I complain cuz I don't want 2 finish he gets upset and makes me feel like I'm one of those girls that never gives their husband sex (we call our 4 play stuff our sex). I'm a really nice person that doesn't like 2 hurt the feelings of anybody else. I'm 2 generous and I put up with his constant "melesting me" (not really, I just call it that) Help!

Answer 1

How to deal with this is to tell him how being gentle makes you feel better. You should not have to put up with someone who wants to be so rough it could do damage to you. Foreplay is good if it is done right. Take his hand and show him what pleasures you. It could be also because he is scared since he can't have regular sex, make him feel the love you have for him in the small things in life you do for him.

Answer 2

Could it be that you husband feels insecure about his own sexuality? Maybe he is afraid if he doesn't wear you out so to speak or please you everytime that you will get tired of him. Let him know as much as you can that this isn't the case but that you don't always want to be touched in these ways and that it is turning you off more than he thinks.

Answer 3

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