after 30 yrs of marriage if your not happy cause of things in the past is it reason to start over to divorce?

Question

in the early years of our marriage i was an *** since then i have grown to be a better person. our children are grown now have a grandson & LOVE my spouse more than ever how ever my spouse i fear does not LOVE me what to do? divorce & start all over or look for a way to stay together

Answer 1

Have you been accountable for the behavior you displayed in the early years of your marriage? It's time for you two to talk and clear the air once and for all. If this is not possible just between the two of you, enlist the skills of a counselor. Whatever has turned your wife off can be reversed with time and patience. If you are looking for a quick fix, be aware that it doesn't exist. Divorcing your wife solves nothing and throws 30 years of commitment down the drain. What a waste. It says you don't value a wife that can't meet your expectations when you're the one who created the problem in the first place. Time to be a real man and take full responsibility for your actions, ask what you can do to right the wrongs and then follow through to completion. If you have truly grown to be a better person, you will do what it takes to get this cleared up.

Answer 2

find a way to stay together.30 yrs is a long time.congrats. maybe she is in need of a little change or excitement since the kids are grown and have lives of their own. it's common for a woman to feel a little empty at this point in her life. maybe you could help fill that emptiness. try something new together, take her on a trip somewhere she's always wanted to go. re-connect.