Am I spoiling him by picking him up, or should I just let him cry? It even happens after I feed him and/or change him, but when we pick him back up he is fine. I don't think there is a medical problem because he is otherwise quite healthy! And he is normally a VERY good baby. What do I do??? Thank you!
2007-03-18 12:05:09 · 22 answers · asked by cyndinicole 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Just test it out see how long he will actually cry for, it might just be a few minutes then he occupies himself or falls asleep. Unless you want to be carrying him around ALL the time you gotta let him cry sometimes to learn to be a little independent.
Are you sure he doesn't have gas?
BTW, I've also read about letting babies cry it out and what Cassandra is talking about is true you she failed to mention that those studies are talking about letting a baby cry it out for atleast 10-15 minutes EVERY night for weeks and weeks. Not a few times a few days.
2007-03-18 12:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes, the baby seems to be spoil. I think the baby is use to being carried around and since the baby feels safe and warm when you carry them they like it. You might want to try and let the baby cry for a while. It might take up to three days for the baby to get use to that. I know you will feel bad for letting the baby cry but its best for you and the baby.
2007-03-22 07:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by muñeca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, you can't spoil a newborn. Babies at this age can't soothe themselves yet, and rely on their parents to comfort them. Having just come from your womb where they're snug as a bug, I'm sure it would be scary to be "free"
My daughter cried nonstop for about 4 1/2 months. The only thing we could do was carry her, not even holding worked. We had to actually be standing for her to be happy. But she's almost 7 months now and has gotten much better about it.
2007-03-18 16:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by reflux mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...Im ryan nice to meet you...no actually its not spoiling the baby but it makes it to where he will cry more until you do pick him up...so its half spoiling half not but no need to worry...well if it happens after you feed him you've feed him to much..its not a medical problem so yes he is very healthy...just rock him or sing to him...my suggestion would be to sing a song your mom/dad sang to you when you were younger
2007-03-18 15:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by Axle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that to be a good baby a baby can't cry? Crying is the way that baby communicates with you, his needs and wants. Why is it that some new mothers think that all baby needs is a bottle and a diaper change and they're good to go? Baby needs to be held, needs to be loved, needs to be cuddled, kissed, stroked and gazed at. You can't spoil a baby this early and you shouldn't just let him cry. He doesn't understand the idea of object permanence, meaning that when he doesn't see you anymore, he thinks you cease to exist, and it's scary, THAT is why he starts crying when you put him down.
A sling/baby carrier can really help bring these moments to a minimum. Check out your local Nine In Nine Out (NINO) group (you can find their group information at nineinnineout.org) You can try out carriers there, see which one fits you and your son the best. Then, you can go to thebabywearer.com's forums and find a used carrier for pretty cheap.
Good luck, don't question your instincts, they're good ones, just love on your baby every chance you get!
2007-03-18 13:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by Rebecca C 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
STUDIES HAVE SHOWN THAT if you let a baby cry, it can actually damage their brain. It makes them feel like they are not in a secure environment and it actually damages brain cells. You cannot spoil a baby this age, so show him love and understanding, the world is a very scary place right now and you need to make him feel as safe and secure as possible. Keep on showing your baby love. I have a 4 1/2 month old girl and I show her a the love I can, it wont last long, befor you know it he will be going to college, cherish these precious moments!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-18 12:32:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are not spoiling him...crying is his only way of communication. Make sure you check that he is not hungry, dirty, too cold, too warm, or ill. If he seems fine, then just cuddle him. They crave the comfort and security of being held close to a warm body...it's what they are used to from being in your belly for nine months. If you find you are getting worn out and need a break, ask your spouse, a relative or a friend to help out with the cuddle time.
2007-03-18 14:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by missyB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My baby does the same thing every morning for hours. The Doctor says that she has colic, Could that be the reason he wants to be held. Holding my daughter is the only way to comfort her. Hold him there is nothing wrong with holding them because you cant spoil him at this young of an age.
2007-03-18 15:49:14 · answer #8 · answered by Desiree S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CUDDLE HIM!
He's a baby, you can't spoil him by cuddling him in his moments of despair :)
He will only cry to tell you there is something wrong, he's cold, he can't smell mummy anymore, he needs a bit of love...
He's not going to be this little for long, so pick him up and embrace him while you can, because you will be surprised at how quickly he grows up and suddenly won't want mummy cuddling him all the time.
2007-03-18 13:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Interesting research has been done on crying babies. We know that their brains flood with cortisol when they cry. This stress hormone impairs learning, creates anxiety and depressive disorders - AND these children left to cry grow into adults unable to cope with stress, because of the resultant miswiring of their brains.
No other primate but humans ever puts their infant down. Our infants are biologically designed to be held. Hold your baby.
He won't remain a good baby if you teach him he cannot trust you. He loves you as desparately as you love him and he needs you to give him what he needs. He needs to be held.
Many people will tell you a baby is spoiled if you hold him, but frankly these are people who are not willing to parent right and they don't want you to either. Perhaps because of neglect from their own moms who they don't wish to be disloyal to, because of weird and ignorant (as in uninformed) ideas about independence (obviously a baby is not and cannot be independent), or because it's kinda demanding to be a good mother.
Hold your baby and revel in what a good primate mommy you are!
2007-03-18 12:35:57 · answer #10 · answered by cassandra 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋