I went out for dinner with my daughter and her fiance looking at me straight in the eyes, (as if waiting to see my reaction), and announced they are going to get married next May. I suspect this man is taking total advantage of my daughter's blind love for him. I also know he is going to make her suffer in the long run, because he is unstable. He has frequent nervous breakdowns and goes to the Emergency Room, at least twice per month, with illnessess that doesn't exist, and since I also knew his first wife, I know he treated her like dirt. I also suspect he is marrying my daughter, because of her good paying carreer. I tried warning her a couple of times in the past, and she always told him, this caused them not coming to my place for almost a month. Now i see my only daughter getting into a situation that will most likely cause her grief. Should I, at the expenses of having them stop coming, tell her how I feel about her boyfriend? What would you do in this situation?
2007-03-18 11:56:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There is nothing you can do... except be there for her. If you fight it, there will be problems with your relationship with your daughter. We all have to make our own mistakes, all that truly matters is that there is someone there to help us when we make them. I bite my tongue all the time with my daughter and son and their dates. My daughter has already had a few rough rides. I kept quiet, I am there for support if she needs me, and she knows this. And if your daughters boyfriend goes once or twice a month to ER.. your daughter already knows this. We can only learn from our own mistakes, not what our parents thinks. I am 47 years old.. and I never took my folks advice either. Looking back I wish I had ..but.. if I did then I would not know that they were right.. :) .. If she loves him.. let it be, just be there for her. Unless he is abusive or something.. then you need to step in..
2007-03-18 12:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by tootsie38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that. Try getting the first wife and your daughter to talk about this. She may listen to her because she has actually been through this.
2007-03-18 19:03:39 · answer #2 · answered by helpful?? =D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her personally a one on one and tell her your just being a mom and trying to protect her not to hurt her, maybe she'll realize shes making a mistake, or if she doesnt already no this x have them meet and talk things out maybe she'll get the whole "picture" then.
2007-03-18 19:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by Kelsey C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you dont approve of is having to 'know' all about this guy.
having him in YOUR life. you raised your daughter...why do you think she chose this particular guy? peace
2007-03-18 19:02:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋