My husband of 20 years, ex-girlfriend's mother died. I have only seen pictures of the ex-girlfriend. Didn't know her personally. He wants to attend the funeral, and he wants me to come along. I asked him if he would be stopping by the family home as well. He said he feels that it is the right thing to do. I think it's great that he respects me enough to take me along with him as his wife. However, I feel awkward, having never met the ex-girlfriend, or her mother. Is it my place to attend the funeral, as well as going to her home? I love my husband and I would support him. But, is it me, or does this sound weird? What would you do? His brothers and sisters are well acquainted with her family, should he just attend with them? Comments please...
2007-03-18 11:56:28 · 12 answers · asked by Jaysgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should go with him, you will feel awkward because you dont know any of those peeps and because its an ex, anything that has to do with exes is awkward.. but youve been married for 20 years and you two are like one person now.. wouldnt you be pissed if he didnt invite you? i would... be proud of yourself and your 20 year marriage and go with him... and wear something really nice ...
2007-03-18 12:08:09 · answer #1 · answered by meryl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is proper for you are his spouse to attend the funeral..
was the ex girlfriend from 20 years ago? If she was I wouldnt worry too much about it..If it was during your marriage there would be no way in heck that I would feel good about any of it..
If the families are still friends after 20 years..then it seems ok to me
2007-03-18 19:04:17 · answer #2 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's been your husband for 20 yrs., has he maintained a relationship with the ex during this period? If not, why does he need to go in the first place and if he did maintain a relationship with the ex, you are one hell of a wife to allow that because I know many that would not allow a relationship with someone from the past unless kid's are involved of course.
Mary in the tiny village of Onsted, Michigan
2007-03-18 19:06:00 · answer #3 · answered by maryannmccarthy2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this does make alot of sense to me. he is being supportive of the family through this time and that is a good thing. You should go with him as his wife and be there by his side through it all. He has a big heart and that is a good thing. Should be more men like him out there. This is not weird at all and he is being honest with you about wanting to attend so yes you should go.
2007-03-18 19:21:30 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when I first was reading this I was like No don't go with him badddd idea. But when you said his family knows her family that changes it a little bit. In my opinion that makes it alright for you to go not as her ex boyfriends wife but as the wife of a family friend...so yes i would go.
2007-03-18 19:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by idgaf mkaaay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go just dont talk about your love life with them or any personal things just smile allot .You have a good husband and he a good wife for trusting him
2007-03-18 19:07:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with him. Just because he wasn't in a relationship with the daughter anymore....doesn't mean he couldn't still like and have a friendship with her parents. He obviously loves you very much and respects you to ask you to go with him!
2007-03-18 19:35:00 · answer #7 · answered by rhonda y 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He asked you to go with him, so he doesn't have any bad intentions. He obviously was closer to his ex's Mother than you knew. Go with him! He wants to "show you off" to his ex while you're there. He loves you, and is proud of you!
2007-03-18 19:04:39 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sure it would be fine to attend the funeral.Just avoid any contact with actualy fmaily members for fear of asking u questions about the relationship with u and the deceased.
2007-03-18 19:02:40 · answer #9 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should attend with you, his wife, after all, i figured the two of you share life together, or is that marriage thingy just a bunch of BS and he does his thing and you do yours and both live seperate lives?
2007-03-18 19:29:03 · answer #10 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋