How do you stop loving someone who does not love you?

Answer 1

YOU DON'T!!! Feeling a need to "stop" loving someone because they don't or no longer love you is the biggest lie in the book. Stop telling yourself you need to. It's ok to love. You're human. What you're dealing with has nothing to do with love. It has everything to do with shame, or feeling like you're somehow weak because you still love "him/her" and they no longer love you. It ain't true. As a matter of fact, if you can walk to the nearest mirror, look into it, and tell yourself that your feelings are ok--I guarantee you'll feel better.

What you want to work on is moving on with your life. Focusing less on the other person's feelings and more on your own. At this point, it's no longer about him or her--I'm assuming you're no longer with the person--it's about healing. Take your time and surround yourself with people that love you. I wish you luck!

Answer 2

It's not easy, but one way is to immerse yourself in new projects and anything that will keep your mind off the heartbreak,Also throwing away or putting away in a place where you will not easily see them any mementos of your past love will help lessen the pain.Also avoid going places that you and your ex-love went to as a couple.Another thing DO NOT GET INVOLVED IN ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP until you are 100 % over your past love.It's not fair to the other person and jumping right back into a new relationship can delay or deny the healing process of the pain that the loss of your love caused. Relying on your friends and family for a support network will help as well. BUT EVEN WITH ALL THAT I HAVE OFFERED THE ONLY THING THAT WILL TRULY HEAL YOUR WOUNDS IS TIME. I TRULY feel for you and your pain as I went through pretty much the same thing when I came home early one day planning to surprise my NOW EX-WIFE and take her away for a three day weekend only to find her on the living room floor of our home having sex with my then best friend.And when she relaised that I was standing there she told me that she no longer loved me and my then best friend was my replacement as the man she loved. After several years of trying to figure out what I had done wrong (you will go though that phase as well if you haven't allready) until it hit me like a brick that she was wrong and I got my life back on course and I will celebrate my 6TH wedding aniversary with my second wife this coming august. I wish you luck and I never want you to give up hope as when I felt that there was no hope I found my second wife and I could not be happier since.

Answer 3

Mia Mia,
Did you post this question earlier? Just let him go and move on. There are other fish in the sea. You are probably a wonderful person who deserves better than what you're receiving from this guy. So, do yourself a favor and close the door on this relationship. Afterall, you wouldn't want to be with a person who doesn't love you, would you? I hope not, because there's no emptier feeling in the world. So, love yourself, remember all of your good qualities and have faith that things will get better. And believe me, they will. Just give it some time and say your prayers. God bless you and best wishes.

Answer 4

You can't just "stop." You will love him regardless. I was in a similar position when I was younger and I can tell you that the only way you will get over this is TIME. I know you're hurting very much....you can try to distract yourself as others have said, but the pain and thoughts of him will be there. But I promise you that even though you can't conceive of it right now, in due time, you will get over him and not think of him or love him. Be patient.

Answer 5

I agree with the others that you must forbid yourself to contact him, throw all your energy and resources into finding someone more suitable, and distract yourself with anything. The character Charlotte from "Sex and the City" said it takes half as long as you were together to get over someone, which is why you need to get out the minute you realize there is no future. There is no greater relief in the world than getting over an ex -- especially if he tries to hook up again later on, and you finally know that you truly don't want any part of him. Good luck, girl!

Answer 6

as hard as it may be you have to move on,or you will only be hurt by not being loved the way you deserve to be...take some time to be alone and heal,before you get with another,(so you wont settle)...hang with friends,get a hobby even go out on a date,(but not romantically for awhile)....then move on...

Answer 7

Time does that. Don't think about the good memories. Stay distracted, until enough time has passed to where you reflect on your beliefs only and not theirs. You are more important then them.

Answer 8

You just have to move. Go out with someone else, get a hobby, just don't think about the fella.

Answer 9

Find someone else and walk away from your love.

Answer 10

Hey,

You stop by not looking at the person. Just don't think about the person. To forget it , hang out with friends alot. Do things to keep you busy in having fun.