She won't talk to me about divorce, I'm ready to move on, but she won't talk about it. She only talks to me if I contact her first. If I go out with another lady just for dinner or a movie.. is it considered cheating?
2007-03-18 11:48:06 · 19 answers · asked by ravenhm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
instead of trying to talk to her about divorce you should be talking to your lawyer about divorce, let your lawyer talk to her about it
2007-03-18 12:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married 30 yrs. and separated for 5 of the last 10. No I do not consider it cheating. Funny you don't have legal separation in place. I realize that you probably have quite a few assets and it is like wearing golden handcuffs. It is hard to drop someone after that amount of time, but you must decide which way to go. Best of luck.
2007-03-18 12:04:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think it is cheating, and you are asking this question, the answer is probably "YES".
Fact remains, that you can get a divorce if you wanted and she would not have to agree to it. The process is the same for you as it would be for anyone else. Are you afraid of paying alimony and 50/50 stuff, or what is the problem? Why haven't YOU initiated the legal paperwork? Stop putting everything off onto her and take accountability. Get your divorce, if that is what you truly want, and then get your piece of a*s. Some people!
2007-03-18 11:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by longleggedfirecracker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that u r ready to move on and want to date other women. Tell her that the two of you need to divorce so that u r both free to find happiness again.
If she still wont talk to u about it, then just go file for it. Doing this is her way of not having u but not letting anyone else have u either. Its not fair to u.
So, if she wont talk, then dont talk period. Go file and move on with your life.
You are entitled to find happiness again and if u wish to date other women i dont see a problem with it. The two of you have been separated for a long time and its clear that there is no reconciliation in the future. So, no, i wouldnt consider it cheating.
Good luck to u.
2007-03-18 11:56:03 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't filed a legal seperation do this, this tells her your serious and will end the marriage. If you chat or plan to have a date let the lady know whats going on up front so there won't be more problems with her if you become serious with her. I think 2 yrs says its over and there is no one attempting to make this work its time for you future Ex to realize its over hopefully you can leave as friends.
2007-03-18 11:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by wildrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, in most states, you can get divorced without her consent. It takes a while, but you can still move on, even if she doesn't want to talk about getting divorced.
Second, no, it is not cheating if you go out with someone else at this point. Just make sure anyone you date knows your situation.
2007-03-18 11:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can file for divorce without her permission. If you have not and have been separated for 2 years maybe you really do not want a divorce either. It sounds as if you are both comfortable with things as they are and reluctant to take the final step.
As for dating someone new - personally I would not want to datesomeone that had been separated for 2 years with no formal paperwork to define it.
And technically, yes you are cheating if you date someone while married. Married is married period.
2007-03-18 12:02:56 · answer #7 · answered by PD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife may be buying time and looking for evidence of you cheating so she can take you to the cleaners in a divorce. After 30 yrs. of marriage, she'd get a lot or even maybe she's waiting for you to die so she can cash in the life insurance and collect your social security or maybe she simply don't want a divorce because she still loves you and is waiting for you to beg her to come home. Good luck.
Mary in the tiny village of Onsted, Michigan
2007-03-18 11:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by maryannmccarthy2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After being separated for 2 years, most definitely i wouldn't consider it cheating.
I dont know what your history is with your wife, maybe she hasnt let go yet, and perhaps is why she does not want to talk about it, then again, she also does not contact you either, so i wouldnt contact her again about it.
You can get divorce papers and file them your self or you can do it via a solicitor without ever having any contact with her.
2007-03-18 11:56:23 · answer #9 · answered by smileyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need her approval for a divorce. Just get a lawyer and file. After 2 years it is not cheating.
2007-03-18 11:56:25 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess not - but even if it was you likely live in a no-fault state where something like adultery is not necessary for divorce. Just drop a couple thousand on a family lawyer and ask them to file for divorce and walk away.
2007-03-18 11:52:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋