Well, this is really difficult as I am married and have a very responsible job. My problem is that I'm in love with someone else. I know I shouldn't be, I know I can't be but I am. I think about her everyday and she is always in my thoughts. I can never tell her how I feel. I cannot tell anyone how I feel. I know I should forget about her and continue with my life, just get on with it. I know I should, but why can't I just let go!!! I love her very much.
2007-03-18 11:32:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
definately do NOT let her go... life is too short and too precious to turn your back on love, even if it's not convenient or seems out of synch with your life. Perhaps your marriage isn't what it once was, or perhaps the two of you have grown apart. If you do love this person so much that you are consumed with her, letting her go will be a HUGE regret... best of luck!
2007-03-18 11:38:37 · answer #1 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is always a hard situation to face. Over the course of these answers you will have many tell you to go with or without her. Understand only YOU can make the choice but remember this:
You are in love with someone YOUNGER has no bearing, you are in love with another woman.
This is common, so don't feel alone. Just make sure that you are sure of your actions before you take them. Remember that woman you married? Yes, that's her, your wife. There was a reason why you pursued her, why you married her. Think about why you you did that before you take the next step. Remember, many of us don't know how much we have until AFTER we lose it.
Good luck, and do what us men don't do enough THINK BEFORE YOU ACT!
2007-03-18 18:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by mjohnson2469 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can be honest with your wife-I'd want that. Tell her what you told us. It is okay to fal in love when your married bacause it just happens, but you have an obligation to end your current relationship before starting another one...before you even know if you can have another one, because its not right to stay just because you aren't sure if things will work out with the younger woman. Keep in mind that a lot of men hit a stage in life when attention from a young woman can be very seductive, but very shallow, and if once you loved your wife, and there is no real reason why you drifted, perhaps you owe it to her and yourself to try to rekindle your love. The grass is NOT always greener on the other side!
2007-03-18 18:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by Stormy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you put a lot of energy into a fantasy and no energy into reality, which one do you think is going to wither? And fantasy is just that...fantasy. Everyone has junk you have to put up with. Fantasy girl will too. If you convince yourself that she is so much better than your wife, in your mind she will be. In reality, you will trade one set of issues for another. Get some counseling and refocus on your marriage. My ex married his mistress and it is falling apart at the seams. The fantasy never lasts, even if you try to turn it into reality.
2007-03-18 19:24:39 · answer #4 · answered by HappyGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if i was your wife i would prefer to be in a very trusting relationship. First of all before ANYTHING happenes ( if it does) with this girl, you have to talk to your wife, (remember the one you vowed to spend the rest of your life with in good times and bad) you need to let her know excactly how your feeling, she might actually be open to giving you time to organise yourself, do not have an affair, is it love or just a fling? work yourself out but do it with your wife, she needs to be able to trust you no matter what you do, please you cant just think of yourself, you need to think about your wife'd feelings this girls feelings and how much this could ruin your life.
2007-03-18 22:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in a similar situation, except we feel same way about each other, and my marriage had been hosed for many years. I'm planning my escape. Regardless of how I feel about this younger woman, I am going to make changes! Theres NO way I will die unhappy like my grandfather did.
2007-03-18 18:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by microsvc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
16 will get you 20. Be strong and be a man. Go talk to your pastor. We all have weak moments and even weak periods in our lives. Is this fair to your wife? Do you have children? Will this younger woman leave you for someone her age someday? Lots for you to think about.
2007-03-18 18:38:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she love you back? How much have you two communicated with each other? Where do you know her from? What makes you think you love her? Details!
2007-03-18 18:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your married. marriage is wonderful. can you seriously ruin something like that by taking a chance. good luck. I wouldn't ruin what you got, especially if you have children.
2007-03-18 18:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by ME!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called lust! I guess you dont love your wife then if this is how you feel about another female. Ughhhhhh men.
2007-03-18 18:37:29 · answer #10 · answered by michelle 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋