You know, as in husband and wife spats.
2007-03-18 11:32:30 · 21 answers · asked by Chewy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What's important to you...to be right or to be happy? There's a difference, you know.
2007-03-18 11:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The main thing to remember when arguing is that there is no substitue for being right. Beyond that, you need to be rational and remain focused. Never let the argument get sidetracked. This is paramount and I cannot stress this point enough.
Allowing the argument to get sidetracked frequently happens in marital spats and is the result of someone's beginning to lose the argument. The most obvious way that this trangression manifests itself is that the argument which begins with something like you going out with your friends on a Friday night, quickly finds you both talking about that time 3 years ago that you forgot to clean the toilet.
Anything that is not relevant to the issue needs to be carefully discarded and the focus returned to the issue at hand. Always remember that if your spouse has taken the argument off on a tangent such as I've described, it is usually because they are losing the argument. At that point, the only way that you will end up losing that argument is if you follow your spouse off on that tangent. Redirect them back and the argument is as good as won.
2007-03-18 11:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by AZ123 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A healthful argument brings new strategies and ideas to the table that could have been before hidden. It differs from a quarrelsome argument with the help of the lack of ability of anger or violent thoughts and the presence of an open minded viewpoint the place the events in contact can admit rights and wrongs on the two facets.
2016-10-19 00:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the underlying reason for the arguments and spats? Are they about the same topic each time?
It is better to sit down with facts in mind and have a calm, rational discussion. Often there are other things going on that cause the fuss.
Winning is not the answer. It's finding out what's making your partner sad and wanting to fuss with you.
2007-03-18 11:36:52 · answer #4 · answered by Blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just stop talking, If my husband and I are in a fight, I know i can really get to him if I just shut up and refuse to say anything. It drives him nuts!! I usually consider that winning an argument. Like just sit there and look at him while he is going on and on, it's hard to do and a little immature, but it works.
2007-03-18 11:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody ever wins in arguments and quarrels...explain your point calmly, and if it gets ugly, walk away. Good luck!
2007-03-18 11:36:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why have them life is much simpler. I know that it is not easy.. talk things out and both of you come out winners. respect each other and love one another... no wins when screaming and yelling goes on you both lose ;as well, if you have kids that here this stuff. Home should be your families refuge from stress and violence,anger... life is so precious
2007-03-18 11:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mr. Smith and Mr. Wesson manufacture and market a producy that can settle any arguement. It's called a hand gun.
2007-03-18 12:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away and pray. Then go see a movie or do something out of the norm for each other.
2007-03-18 11:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have found to get mad go to bed and well bleep like animals is the best way to see who won...
2007-03-18 11:41:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋