My sister's husband is currently working as a volunteer in united nation organitation. He wants to get an annulment and threatening my sister that he would not send them any financial support if she would not signed for the annulment. My sister is now having difficulties because she has no other source of income. They have 3 kids. If you could give me or tell me what action to do, so i could help my sister, i would highly appreciate it. Hope to hear from you soon.
2007-03-18 11:27:21 · 20 answers · asked by mayi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't sign anything, especially an annulment.
If anything, get a divorce. He will be legally responsible to provide financial support.
She will need a lawyer. Better to find one sooner than later.
2007-03-18 11:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it. Is he the biological father of the children? If he is, then whether or not he wants to send financial aid he has a legal obligation to do so. I think that he knows that your sister isn't aware of that so he is using empty threats in order to get her to do what he wants. It's obvious that they aren't happy together so you should advice your sister to file for a divorce. When she gets to divorce court she can petition for child support and for a limited time she can get spousal support (this is what you get when you are married and you havn't been supported by your husband or wife during the marriage. You receive it to help you during the time that you are trying to find a job). There is no way that the courts will let the divorce end without ordering child support if the kids are his. Make sure that she is being realistic about things. It doesn't sound like he is a supportive guy and he doesn't even care enough about the kids to provide for them with her. She needs to do what is best for herself and especially her kids. Do not let her sign the annulment! That would take away alot of the rights that she has in this situation. Of course he knows that she doesn't know that. He's trying to exploit her and leave her with as little as possible.
As a side note, you should encourage her to get a job because depending on someone else to support you can complicate things. Just look at the situation that she is in now.
2007-03-18 11:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by Vince R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has to go to Social Services to get help. Also she could go to Legal Aid Society in her town, as they give free legal service and advice. Also if her husband is not working, she cannot garnishiere his pay. That is why he wants to get an annulment because then I think he would not be responsible for the children. What an underhanded thing to do...Your sister should really hire a divorce attorney if she can, because she really needs professional advice. Tell your sister not to sign the annulment because that will make her marriage null and void and then the children like they never existed. She must have advice before she signs any papers.
2007-03-18 13:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this just gets me mad. Child support is not optional is a must. Believe me it's not up to him is up to your sister to file for child support. Divorce or no divorce his kids are his kids and he has responsibilities and that's how the judge will see it. Tell her to toll free 1-800-615-8858 but if she is in California she can call 323-890-9800 and ask for an application that she can fill out her self with out having to pay for high rates for a family lawyer and the court will give her like up to 50% of his earnings straight to her address and she don't even have to see his face. This guy has to pay for child support like it or not. If they get divorce she can even claim alimony. If the employer does not cooperate with child support dept on reporting his earnings the company that he works for can get in serious problems. All she needs is his social security number and his employer's name, And if he claims that he is not working she can get welfare until she gets back on her feet and he will have to pay for it, what ever she gets plus interest, so I guess that he will rather pay that owe the government. Good luck
2007-03-18 11:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by JUANA M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is financially responsible for his children, regardless if he has a job or not. He will owe her a percentage of his annual salary, plus back pay. She should speak to a family lawyer and get the paper work started...also, your sister should help herself by getting a job. She can't expect her husband to pay the whole shot. She's also responsible for her children.
2007-03-18 11:32:57 · answer #5 · answered by Luvy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your sister can get a job then she should do that and she should make plans for herself and the kids without him. I'm not saying that she should do anything to jeopardize her marriage, but she should make provision for the 4 of them. Also child support helps she should try that if all else fails.
2007-03-18 11:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by sweet p 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have him arrested
1 Tim. 5:8 (Living)
But anyone who won't care for his own relatives when they need help, especially those living in his own family, has no right to say he is a Christian. Such a person is worse than the heathen.
2007-03-18 11:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by Tommy D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he wants an annulment he has to pay for the care of his children or she will not sign.
2007-03-18 11:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her to retain a lawyer and sue him for child support. That is the best thing she can do.
2007-03-18 11:31:56 · answer #9 · answered by YouGotTold 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce, take him to court for child support, and get a job.
2007-03-18 11:31:17 · answer #10 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋