Okay. So I made this caricature of us (me, my best friend, her boyfriend, two of our other friends, and my crush). I gave a copy to her and to our two other friends. I brought it with me to church today (Sunday). Our two other friends took their copies of the caricature home with them. My "best friend" on the other hand just left it on the pew! I SO hate HER for that! I mean I worked on that caricature for hours--all I wanted to do was make them laugh! Is that so much to ask?! Or am I just making too big a deal out of this? I mean I feel unappreciated! And to think we were best friends! She never took her copy home! She JUST LEFT IT ON THE PEW!
2007-03-18 11:26:17 · 16 answers · asked by Chichiri 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's like she didn't appreciate what I did! I'm not even sure if she GIVES A DAMN about it!
2007-03-18 11:27:51 · update #1
Or is it me? I put a dedication (on each of the three copies, of course). And hers went like this:
Chelsea,
Here's something silly I made when I was bored. It's yours. Keep it. When you're bored, or you're down, and you just need a good laugh, in any case... Here's something to laugh at, sis.
Love lots,
-Jethro
Your bro...
Maybe she didn't like the "love lots" part, huh?
2007-03-18 11:33:09 · update #2
By the way, I got used to using that word "love lots" in my little notes and letters (even e-mails). It's like equivalent to "yours truly" or "love" or whatever. It's become my trademark when writing letters.
2007-03-18 11:37:50 · update #3
Maybe it's something about the caricature. I mean who'd like to have a caricature that looks like the first Power Rangers, right? I only meant to make her laugh. Maybe it's the pairing. I paired her with another guy in the drawing. 'Coz I drew her bf as Jason, and one of our friends as Tommy (just because he looks like JDF).
Yeah...maybe it's the stupid caricature. I saw the expression on her face when I gave it to her. But two of our friends loved it.
2007-03-18 14:19:14 · update #4
okay... if u were best frens ur supposed to forgive and forget. HELLO thats what frens do. move on wit ur life, it was 1 mistake
2007-03-26 09:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by casey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe your friend Chelsea was offended by the way you drew her and maybe "in the light you drew her", as they say.
I understand personal artwork is a very personal thing and when you give it to someone you would expect it to be cherished and not just left somewhere.
I get it, however i think first you should calmly call her on the phone or ask in person ONLY when you don't have those butterfly's in your stomach and say something like "I'm sorry I offended you by my interpretation of you in the caricature and I apologize if it hurt you in any way. I meant nothing personal by it...Would you care to tell me how you feel about it or how it made you feel bc I would feel really badly about loosing you as the good friend you have become to me." (write it down and maybe rehearse it and have it in front of you if you do it on the phone or computer, etc.) You may even write a note to her if she would read it. This might even be best depending on how your friendship with her.
you will be showing her how grown up and mature you are at the same time the bigger person for making the effort and it may just all work out for you in the end.
I believe you have nothing to lose.
Good luck.
2007-03-26 05:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Caricatures tend to exagerrate people's features - she might have been embarassed that some feature of hers is something you noticed and highlighted. She might have been a bit self-conscious about it. Don't get all worked up about this - keep it and give it to her someday when you can laugh about it. Someday you can tell her that if she was sensitive about the picture, you were twice as sensitive because you got upset that she didn't just love it!
2007-03-26 01:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd give her some time to realize she forgot it. Then she will prolly feel horrible. It isnt like she left it there on purpose if she is your best friend as you claim. You were just hurt because she left something you valued and gave to her as a gift. Just let her know she forgot it and you have it and she will prolly be so thankful to have it returned that you will see she really did appreciate it to begin with.
2007-03-18 18:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she forgot to take it. Ask her what happened and if she did, then you're good. If she didnt appreciate it, tell how hard you worked on it and that her reaction made you feel badly. Never accuse, mistakes happen. Always ask questions before disgarding any relationship now and in your future. Its always best to tell how you feel rather than verbally attacking. You will get a truer response. Good luck!!!!
Also make sure you feel calmer before you approach her.
2007-03-18 18:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by billysgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really are making a big deal about this maybe she just plain forgot about it. If its really bothering you maybe you shoudl ask her if she intentionally left it behind
2007-03-25 10:45:47 · answer #6 · answered by fuchetrookbies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she didnt mean to do that to you and she could have other things on her mind you so need to relax cause i dont think thats a good reason to hate someone
2007-03-18 18:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by June 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say she forgot it>>>>people aren't perfect.
2007-03-18 18:31:12 · answer #8 · answered by loving U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay grow up and get over it and get on with your life.
2007-03-18 18:44:57 · answer #9 · answered by zeus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably forgot it and as soon as u remind her she will fell like so sorry cause of wat she ACCIDENTLY did. it's happened a million times with me and my group of friends, but we forgive and forget. also, how could she be ur best freind if u hate her. u really don't hate her, ur just mad.
2007-03-18 18:36:56 · answer #10 · answered by Shannon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋