what do i do?

Question

So i have been talking to this Married Girl. and we have both fallen in love with one and other. she want to leave her husband but she wants to wait tell she get things payed off. she is 23 and he is 32 and i am 20. im not sure what i should do. o and her husband found out about me also but we still talk everday when she is at work.

Answer 1

This is such a hard topic. When you talk about loving a married person, you get all the moralistic people coming out of the closet. Marriage is great, but it doesnt automatically mean that a relationship will work out. If the woman is unhappy in her marriage and is prepared to leave it, then there would have had to be problems a long time before you came on the scene. There is no way you could have made her fall out of love with her husband.....she would have fallen out of love with him anyway.

What I would suggest, however, make sure she has fallen out of love with her husband. Ask her, if she would be interested in counselling with her husband to see if their marriage can be saved. Im saying this for your own benefit, because if she leaves her husband, and it doesnt work out with you and she is having regrets, then she will blame you and the relationship will become sour. Both of you have to be 100% sure that it is what you want. You have to be sure that she has tried everything to make her marriage work before she actually leaves her husband. You have to be 100% sure that she is sincere in loving you and you are not just the excuse she needs to leave her marriage. Be very careful that it is trully what you both want. Make sure it is real love and not just a fling. Make sure that the relationship with her husband is over before you make this huge step.

Take care

Answer 2

Wow you really picked a winner! she's married and she want's to stay with her husband until she get's her bills paid off? So she's going to use her husband until then? what a real piece of work.

Your only 20 and you couldn't find a women that wasn't married? hahaha! stop being lazy! go out a find your self someone that has higher morals and standards. How would you like to be in her husbands shoes?

STAY AWAY FROM MARRIED FOLKS! that's the best advice I can give you. Don't dig your young life into a crap hole!

Answer 3

William....if she cheated on him and then stick around for benifits....what does that tell you! Well it tells me (I'm a woman) she'll do the same to you. Alot of married cheaters make promises of some day soon I'll leave but the truth on the matter is that rarely happens and 9 times out of ten they never really stop loving there spouse....while seeking sexual, emotional, social fulfilment....(anything they were lacking in the marriage. You're young and can find someone for you ...someone not attached.....and remeber what you do comes back at yah....karma. How would you feel @32 yrs. with someone you thought was the love of your life betrayed you, the marraige, and disrespected you both like this? Not a good feeling think about this.....how can you fall in love with someone in love with someone els....dude she's gonna tell you she do'nt love him , do'nt want him....thats what keeps you around!

Answer 4

Bottom line: if she will cheat on her husband, she will cheat on you. If she lies to her husband, she will lie to you.

Ask any person who was involved in a triangle: the lies aren't just given to the betrayed spouse; they are given to the other person too. Everything she is when she's with you is fake. You think you're seeing "the real her" but what you're seeing is her on her best behavior.

Unless her husband is abusive or completely neglecting her, she's just being selfish and you are helping her to create a fantasy world where she is the queen.

Be realistic and stop thinking with your lonely loins - she's lying to you all the time especially about her husband. Their relationship is none of your business.

Anyone who is in love would not decide to stay in a loveless marriage jsut because they have debt. That's the weakest I've heard yet and you're falling for it.

Answer 5

well be carefull because if her husband finds you he might hurt you. And if she loved you so much she would leave him for you. But why pay bills before she leaves doesn't her husband have a job. Well you need to ask yourself one question" Is all this going to last for a long time, because what if later she leaves you for someone else?" Well is doing it already with you.

Answer 6

Well first of all if she loved your for real she would not want to stay in the house with her husband until she gets everything paid off.. She would want to be with you every minute because she was in love with you.. How are you dealing with her still living there and not letting him know that there is something going on? That is her cheating you too, do you think they dont kiss, hug, hold hands, have sex.. If she is having to keep the marriage up some of them things are going to have to happen...If she loves you she would not be hiding you, she would rush into your arms.. She is using you sweet heart and you are not seeing it yet.. You might want to really take to heart the things on here people are saying cause 90% of them are correct.. I just wish you luck, because I think you are being walked on...

Answer 7

Don't do anything. Back off, don't talk to her anymore. If she leaves her husband, then maybe start back with her. But if you stay involved while she is still married, it will be nothing but heartbreak for you.

Good luck.

Answer 8

Please don't be another person to ruin a marriage this is why the divorce rate is so high please try to respect there vows and learn that not all women are honest trust me:) Also why would you want someone who would leave a marriage just like *that* for another person is this someone you want to be with ?? think about that for a while and good luck

Answer 9

One you shouldn't mess with married women, and two unless you have some money she isn't leaving her husband for you. So I would leave her alone.

Answer 10

when one is married and goes outside the moral compass of those vows, they are then pieces of crud, that should be flushed away and you are what one would wipe that crud with! I don't care if she claims to be in an abusive relationship! She should not be doing anything until she has at LEAST filed for Divorce! Makes me sick!