I don't know how to break out with my sexuality to my parents because they aren't the type to accept this kind of thing.
I've never spent time thinking about my sexuality but I know that i'm into girls, I think there are some guys who are cute but I don't think of them anymore as than that.
I don't know what I am and I don't know how to tell my family.
2007-03-18 11:08:53 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Take your time to find yourself. You don't need to proclaim anything to the world until you know yourself. It sounds like you're not ready to talk to your parents about it. In stead of your parents you might talk to some one else first.
2007-03-18 11:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel the need to tell someone right now, find a friend that you can trust and confide in them. You could hold in your sexuality until you are 18 if you feel that is right, but just play it by ear. Tell a friend or two and see how that feels. And don't discount your parents right away, they might be more accepting of it than you think.
2007-03-18 19:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to get to know and love yourself first. Only you can do that. Once you have become comfortable inside your own skin, have goals for the future, and are happy then tell them if you want. My parents are aware of my sexuality, but it is never spoken of........that is just how they choose to deal.....my gf of 10 years, her parents are the same. we live in a small community now, but we went far away to college, and fell in love in college..............some things are better left unsaid if your parents have that attitude. Now we dont want children, we do not live openly, and to your generation I'm sure that sounds like a miserable life, but it is all what you make it. Just start with yourself when you go to college and experiment to find out.........if you are a real lesbian, that will show right off the bat when you are with a guy, then the really good part starts--its a girl................good luck and dont stress honey, it will be okay........you may e mail me for more advice if you'd like.............I dont want to invade, but I know how you feel..........keep your head up and stay strong for you and only you........good things will come your way when it is time
2007-03-18 18:22:25 · answer #3 · answered by alex grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really your choice. But, to be honest, a lot of parents don't take their kids seriously if they come out at a young age. They just think that their children are going through a stage so it might be better if you wait until you're 18 or older to tell them.
Also, you said that you don't know what you are and that to me tells me that you probably need more time to figure out it all out.
2007-03-26 11:27:37 · answer #4 · answered by Mark A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't close to your family and you don't think they'll be accepting, then keep up the distance and avoid the subject until you're on your own probably. No sense in causing problems with people you aren't close to. If you are close to your parents though and maintaining that close friendship is important to you, then you'll need to tell then and work on getting them to be accepting of you.
2007-03-19 02:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly think you should wait until you have a "plan B" about where you would live, who would emotionally and financially support you, etc. The streets are filled with LGBT who found out that their parent's love was conditional. College, for example, is a great way to do this. Best of luck.
2007-03-18 19:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 18 and I still haven't told my parents that I'm gay. Like your parents, they aren't the type to accept this.... I'm in the same dilemma, but I think I'll wait until I get a boyfriend, and then I'll knock on the door "hello, mom, dad, this is my boyfriend X!" BUT I'll do this thing only when I'll be able to live on my own, because now I still depend on them... So, my advice for you is: be patient.... just a little longer. :)
2007-03-25 03:23:00 · answer #7 · answered by someone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do some soul searching, ive seen some bad outtings and some really good ones for the family. Definetly have a plan b if things dont go well. If you are truly a lesbian then once you come out you well have instant weight lifted off your shoulders.
Good Luck
2007-03-25 02:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by darkcloud5757 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless they ask or there is a REALLY good reason, keep it on the QT. They need not know about your sexual experiences with men or women. The will find out in time. Chances are they already suspect and just keep it to themselves. If they choose to deal with it that way, let them. No harm no foul.
2007-03-25 00:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldant tell too many people because once its out you cant take it back in, and if your parents don't accept it, you will have too many akward moments living with them. If I wouldant tell anyone but a select few that you really trust. because many people will mock you and never let up on it. I would keep in inside especially since you havent fully made up your mind yet
2007-03-25 15:51:50 · answer #10 · answered by johnboy2266 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋