My 16 year old friend thinks that it would be cool to get pregnant by her 15 year old boyfriend.?

Question

What do I tell her. She says "then we will have to be together forever".

Answer 1

Take her to a shelter full of young mothers who thought the same thing.

Answer 2

Oh Lord!!!! I hope she doesn't actually believe that will work!
It never has before for any other woman who tried it!!
All it means is that her life is over. She will have to single handed raise a child for the next 18 years of her life. It will also decrease the number of men who will even consider dating her in the future. Most guys are not ready for a ready made family. Still... it's not too bad... she will still only be 35-36 by the time she is finally able to start thinking about herself and where she would like to go with her life.... Unless she decides there is another guy she would like to attempt to trap along the way....

Tell the girl to get a clue!!! She won't keep the boy and she will be giving up the best years of her life to raise a child.

Unfortunately... trying to tell a 16 year old that this is not "the one!!", will be a total waste of breath. I hope she decides not to do anything so terrible foolish!!

Answer 3

Very few teenaged romances work out, particularly if there is a baby involved. Babies born to unwed teenaged mothers have a significantly higher risk of being raised in poverty, exposure to abuse, foster system, drugs, underaged drinking (and yes, this is bad!). They are more likely to have behavioural problems in school, run-ins with the law, emotional/mental health issues such as depression and suicide.

Moreover, most 15 year old boys are smart enough to realize that a parttme job at McDolnald's is not going to pay for a family. And they take off...and then the girl is stuck with a baby and spends the rest of her life badmouthing the "dead beat bum".

Take her shopping. Price out formula, diapers, wipes, clothes, bedding, high chair. Let her see the monetary cost. Which she'll end up picking up the tab for.

(I went through 2-3 packages of diapers per month, 1 can of formula, but I breastfed...1 pk of wipes, 1 jar of baby food per meal at minimum. 1 box of cereal lasted 1/2 month. She'll need to start with 7 sleepers, 7 onesies, 10 blankets.)

Good luck. She's lucky to have a friend like you

Answer 4

As a former 15 year who got pregnant with that same sentiment....I'm 35 now......will have to tell you there is little chance that she is going to listen to reason. Only after some years go by and realises that she MAJORLY screwed up her life and his and that there is no turning back and there is no way to fix it. Only then will she realise that she was naive to think that getting pregnant was a good idea. Only in hindsight will she ever understand and by then it will be too late for her. I have been in that mind space and would give anything to go back and change it and go back and have NO kids at all

Answer 5

Tell her that you know she will do whatever she wants to do but she needs to think this action through completely before making this decision. For it doesnt matter if they are together for ever , how are they going to make ends meet when neither of them have a job, and is one willing to may have to quit school to get a full time job?

She needs to realize that its not cheap to raise a child and once that baby comes ,its her responsibility to keep the baby, fed,changed,taking the child to appointments. there is no more hanging out with your friends everyday after school,things like that.

Answer 6

Yeah, really "cool". Tell her she will be up half the night EVERY NIGHT WITHOUT RELIEF for at least 3 months. During the day she will not have any time even to go to the toilet sometimes. Childbirth hurts like hell and breastfeeding can be very difficult.

She won't be able to go out for months without smelling of sick and/or poo.

So yes, if she wants to be together with her boyfriend - or should I say whatever he can afford from his salary - then tell her to go ahead!

Answer 7

you need to try and explain to her that getting pregnant probly wont keep then together forever.... boys run when they find out that they have to grow up..ive seen it so many times..i know about 6 or 7 single moms all from the ages 17 to 19...and its hard..its not like you can just be a mom for a few hours a day..if she does get prego she going to be a mom for life...and you also need to make her realize that SHE has to support her baby not her mom or his mom she does its her responsibility..i really don't know what else to say..you should just really keep trying to talk to her

Answer 8

Ask her does she like pain? Does she like people looking down on her? Does she like getting up in the middle of the night 2 or 4 times a night? Ask her does she like going out having a good time staying out late with friends? Does she like staying up all night talking on the phone with her friends? Ask her this and tell her to change her mind and guess what, the babys father doesnt have to stay with the mother if he doesnt choose to !

Answer 9

Tell, her that if her 15 year old boy friend really loves her, he can wait for a few years.

Tell her also that having a baby is a huge amount of work at her age and that in our society, at that age, its a dumb thing to do.

Answer 10

My friend thought that too. now she is a 29 year old high school drop out who lives with her parents and has a 15 yr old kid. oh yeah the second the babies father heard she was pregnant he ran like H?E?L?L out of her life.

Answer 11

i think you should tell her that by doing this she could ruin her whole life because how will they both support the baby, and what if the baby comes and the father doesn't want to take care of it anymore? Tell her that this is a stupid move and maybe she should talk to her boyfriend about it first.