i mean, do we HAVE to get married? is it really necessary? can we be happy without being married? why do people get married? what do you think? single people only please, or else im just going to get "my husband and i have been married for 15 years and i have no regrets... blah blah blah." yeah, but what about all the other people who have divorced and such? so single, never married people only please!
2007-03-18 10:46:36 · 17 answers · asked by bornslippyboy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this question was for the single people of my gernation to discuss critically the value of marriage. instead i got lots of subjective married folk in defense. i don't buy this personal integrity and emotional maturity bs. anyone with a finger can get married--that doesn't make you special. but thanks for those who recognized the meat.
2007-03-20 15:24:31 · update #1
The real value of marriage is to legitimize your children, and your inheritance of real property. It is a civil and legal contract. In the case of your unexpected death, the state in which you live, will not be able to seize it, should you have no living relatives.
In a more romantic vein, it is an announcement to all the world, that we are a team of love and support, and as such, we did not enter it without thought, and preparedness. That we each keep and marry each other as best friends, too. That we weill learn to solve our differences without rage, and without trouncing on the other's ego It means that I will be there for you, and you for me. In light of the fact that we will likely live far longer than did people 100 years ago, it is also an acceptance that we may change, and our commitment to each other may indeed fail. But that at least we each will do all we can to remain committed to our loveship, and our friendship...
2007-03-18 11:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, here's your answer, from a man married for 36 years.
Do you HAVE to get married? No.
Is it really necessary? No.
Can you be happy without it? Yes.
Why do people get married? Ah, now you're getting to the meat of the discussion.
Single people only? How the HELL do you expect to get a decent answer that way??????
First and foremost, it's all about commitment. It's about the relationship. You're a team; like two cops in da hood. Get it?
If you don't get it, forget it.
It's about living together through the bad as well as the good times. It's about covering each others' backs. It's about not having your foot in the back door, ready to bail out at the first hint of difficulty.
It's about having enough compromise, sympathy and forgiveness.
It's about emotional maturity.
And if you have all that.....and a freakin' bag o' chips, then you shouldn't have ANY problem with a minor detail like marriage.
It's about having personal integrity and nads.
You listen to who you want. I'm givin' you the straight $hit, and if your intuition isn't fine-tuned enough to recognize the truth from the BS....good luck to you.
2007-03-18 10:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got a problem. Been marry is the most beautiful thing ever some one can live. Yeah why? Because, that’s the only way you can understand each other. Single people, you need not to be doing what you are doing outside marriage. Hope you get my point.
2007-03-18 10:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by FlowMaster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you dont want to be married then find a person that doesnt want to be married. there are lots of people out there tryiing to look for the same thing as you. people want to be married because thats the way life is, you are single you get married then you have kids anf then you die. it is a long cycle that will never end. people want to get married because in the end you dont want o be alone when you are 65. you dont want to be running solo when you go to your 20 year reuinon. if you marry then you will always have a date on saturday night. if you marry then you will always have a warm body at night to snuggle up to. if you marry then you can share your secrects.
on the other hand if you dont marry then you dont have to worry about anniversaries, you wont have to worry about in laws, you wont have to worry about any of that. you really dont have to marry but it is just a life thing that everyone does.
fight life and be single.!!! or marry and share your feelings and future with a special someone with....good luck.
2007-03-18 10:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is important because it gives God (Yes, I said, God)permission to become a part of your union because rather you realize it or not you're going to need Him to be there when life began to toss it's crazy waves your way and/or you need an answer or just someone to talk to when you don't want to upset your wife or husband. You're gonna need Him to intervene sometime and it sure would be good to have Him already an active player in your life. You see, it's not just paper, that's why you're reason should be for love and companionship and nothing else, because anything else will fail. I hope, I helped a little, sorry so wordy, but I just love this subject.
2007-03-18 11:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to limit the answers to single people? Everyone has different views on marriage, if you don't want to get married, don't. Some people want to get married, so they do. And believe it or not, some people like being married and it works for them. Who told you that you HAVE to get married? You do what's right for you.
2007-03-18 10:55:27 · answer #6 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to the bible, we have to get married before sex. A person can be happy w/o marriage as long as they have the companionship or if they just choose to be happy by themselves. As of our generation, marriage is not that big of a deal anymore because sometimes being single is better- less headache. I hope that answer your question.
2007-03-18 10:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by aighngel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't have to get married.I think if I had got married when I was going to I would have killed myself by now or him. But it's what other people say and they always have their 2 cents about other people lives. If I decide i found the right one and want to keep him then great but I don't have to get married. And it's also old fashioned thing too with marriage.
2007-03-18 10:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you sound a little bitter or like you are very young. You don't have to get married. I enjoyed being single, but marriage is the preferred way to go for many people.
I like your 360 quote, "It takes strength to be gentle and kind." So true.
2007-03-18 10:51:55 · answer #9 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do anything. The importance is commitiment, recourse, and a prenuptual agreement if they screw up.
If you just date forever, and someone cheats or walks after all that has been invested you get squat, and have no recourse against them.
You have to tie people up financially to protect yourself if things go south.
Chances are things will go south like 50%.
2007-03-18 11:20:56 · answer #10 · answered by Credit Expert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋