Im married and im very lonely is this a normal feeling ...i have been married for 12 years and never had an affair...i have been faithfull to her every day...ive talked to my wife and i feel that she isnt listening...she feels that im in my mid life crisis..i dont know ...help me please ...sex is very good but im no longer being stimulated mentally..
crying for some good conversation...
2007-03-18 10:25:09 · 8 answers · asked by punkinhead0 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, hon, at least the sex is still good.... and that is more than lots of questions on this site.
Your marriage suffers from what many suffer.... boredom. And you change that by doing things together... you have a date night once or twice per month. If you like symphony, buy season tickets. If some show comes to town, go see it, like Lion King. If you both like bands, or rock stars, do that. Meet another couple for dinner once a month. And each of you ought to have something that you do by yourself, where you meet other people and then bring that experience back to your relationship....join a lapidary club, or a photography club. Take a junior college course in English or poetry, or anything else that may interest you. To be INTERESTING, you must be INTERESTED ..... in something, preferably lots of things. Read, each of you, some interesting books.... or magazine articles.... Discover Mag, Scientific American, National Geographic. If you and she are both educated with sophisticated tastes, the categories are more plentiful, than if you both never graduated hs.
2007-03-18 10:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When couples fall into a monotonous life everything around then seen boring, sad and empty.
A good idea to bring some sparks back into your life is to start from the beginning, what did you used to do when you were dating. Bring back the romance of a date with your wife at certain restaurant.
Bring her flowers. Rent romantic movies and set the room for some intimacy, but not the usual, let your imagination run and do things that you stop doing or new things you'll like to try.
Plan a second or third.... honeymoon. So many things a couple in love can do, endless possibilities and so worth it.
2007-03-18 17:37:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife must be going through something too is the only thing I can think of as to why she won't listen. Maybe you should talk to a good buddy that has good common sense about whatever it is you are going through and maybe you need to get out without her a little. Maybe som time away from each other(not a separation but just for a few hours or a weekend) may do some good.
2007-03-18 17:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not try to make some new friends outside the relationship MALE FRIENDS. It sounds normal, I've been married a year and a half and when my husband is just zoning out watching football, he is so freaken boring to me. Like a bump on a log, just hypnotized. But you know, no one can be totally entertaining at all times. you guys sound like you need some new things. Maybe even move! get new jobs! take college classes, new hobbies, take a cruise. Anything you can do that's different and will change your lives, will help you two out. Life gets boring if you do that same thing everyday, change it up.
2007-03-18 17:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should work on yourself. Learn something new. Take up a hobby that is challenging but not worthless. Maybe your just bored. Something out of the norm for you (that won't be bad for your marriage) that you never thought of doing. I believe everyone should do something every year that they have never done before. Like for my 33rd b-day this year, I went on a horse drawn sleigh ride and ate my Eggo's with chopstix. Doesn't have to be a big deal but it keeps you having fun. If you start having fun with yourself, maybe the spark will come back to your marriage!
Good luck!
2007-03-18 17:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by sandibum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like you have both hit a tough patch. It is not normal to feel like this and you both need to learn how to be a couple again. why don't you both go away on a break together, get to know each other again away from you day to day life it may bring you both back together again.
2007-03-18 17:30:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its just a phase you're going through right now. You guys need to do something fun to spice up your marriage life. How old are you btw?
2007-03-18 17:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-18 17:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by tuff luv 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋